Also, OP, your boyfriend needs to start dating out of his circle, sheesh! I mean, other than you, obviously.
In some ways, don't we ALL have apricots in our shoes?
@Judith Slutler He seems pretty sure.
I'll preface this with this is a little bit a humble brag, a little bit needless anxiety, and little bit a question no one can answer but myself and I might never have to.
In a fit of frustration with my current (non-permanent, though recently extended job), I applied to a Dream Job I saw pop up on the internet. That out of my system, I put it behind me and figured I would not even get a response on it. I almost immediately received an interview request.
Going back and re-reading the description (and finding out the salary range!), I decided I was obviously underqualified. But here's the thing. The interview went really, really well. Like, not sure I "nailed it," but had a wonderful, honest conversation with these people. They seemed to have a firm grasp on my strengths and weaknesses, and what I would be able to do with the position.
Now I'm terrified that I will get the job. This is a high stakes, top of my field kind of thing. If I blow it, I will be blowing it colossally and visibly. It also means moving to a place I don't want to move and away from a place I don't want to leave. Job prospects are limited if I stay here, though.
Potentially, the money I would make at this other position could solve a lot of my problems (DEBT! That is delaying a lot of other aspects of my life.) But I'm not sure it is worth sacrificing "quality of life" in other regards. I've moved around a lot, and I've got a good thing going here. I'm tired of moving.
I realize I've yet to receive a job offer, but what do I do?
I always try to walk extra confidently, and then inevitably get stopped for directions.
@tealily Sorry for eight million typos. You guys know what I mean.
Not to be a dink, but I do tend to tune out with "when you are new to to New York City." I've been new to a few different big cites, but New York was not one of them. Wonderful piece, and more universal than you think.
@sevanetta You are absolutely right. I know my fella wants a best man, at least, so I think I'm going to need to have at least a maid/matron of honor. I don't have a current best girl friend though. I think the dude and I will just have to pow wow about this and maybe choose a few friends regardless of gender to stand up for us both.