Also, OP, your boyfriend needs to start dating out of his circle, sheesh! I mean, other than you, obviously.
In some ways, don't we ALL have apricots in our shoes?
@Judith Slutler He seems pretty sure.
I'll preface this with this is a little bit a humble brag, a little bit needless anxiety, and little bit a question no one can answer but myself and I might never have to.
In a fit of frustration with my current (non-permanent, though recently extended job), I applied to a Dream Job I saw pop up on the internet. That out of my system, I put it behind me and figured I would not even get a response on it. I almost immediately received an interview request.
Going back and re-reading the description (and finding out the salary range!), I decided I was obviously underqualified. But here's the thing. The interview went really, really well. Like, not sure I "nailed it," but had a wonderful, honest conversation with these people. They seemed to have a firm grasp on my strengths and weaknesses, and what I would be able to do with the position.
Now I'm terrified that I will get the job. This is a high stakes, top of my field kind of thing. If I blow it, I will be blowing it colossally and visibly. It also means moving to a place I don't want to move and away from a place I don't want to leave. Job prospects are limited if I stay here, though.
Potentially, the money I would make at this other position could solve a lot of my problems (DEBT! That is delaying a lot of other aspects of my life.) But I'm not sure it is worth sacrificing "quality of life" in other regards. I've moved around a lot, and I've got a good thing going here. I'm tired of moving.
I realize I've yet to receive a job offer, but what do I do?
I always try to walk extra confidently, and then inevitably get stopped for directions.
@tealily Sorry for eight million typos. You guys know what I mean.
Not to be a dink, but I do tend to tune out with "when you are new to to New York City." I've been new to a few different big cites, but New York was not one of them. Wonderful piece, and more universal than you think.
@sevanetta You are absolutely right. I know my fella wants a best man, at least, so I think I'm going to need to have at least a maid/matron of honor. I don't have a current best girl friend though. I think the dude and I will just have to pow wow about this and maybe choose a few friends regardless of gender to stand up for us both.
@sevanetta Exactly! I mean, I want it to be a big party with all my favorites at it! Like, a one night only 'Tealily, This Is Your Life.' And probably the only time my various people from all my various places might meet. Which, somehow, seems important.
And speaking of bridesmaids... do I choose the people I would have chosen if I married at 22, or the people I would choose now? Don't want to hurt any feelings, but I also know from years of experience, nobody really wants to be a bridesmaid (although I'm planning to be low key about it. No matching dresses and whatnots.) I mean... are my childhood friends just sitting there, waiting for the call? I don't know!!!