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By peasofmind on "Smile, Girl"
I'm not asking you to defend Paglia, don't worry. Part of patriarchy is the assumption of male behavior (I'm just calling it masculine-coded behavior because it's not exactly that simple) as the default, and holding male behavior up as what women should aspire to. There's an implicit value judgment there, which says that men's behavior is right and good, and women's behavior is a deviation. Who's to say that assertiveness is "better" than niceness? There are advantages and disadvantages to both, and saying that women need to just "man up" (so to speak) is an enforcement of patriarchal values.
I also think that talking about men being responsible for women's behavior when it comes to rape is HARDLY an accurate assessment of what most feminists mean when we talk about fighting rape culture. The current default is the opposite of that (the culture blames women for men's actions), and we're asking that men be held responsible for their own behavior.
I mean this is the nicest possible terms, but it's kind of sounding like a productive conversation isn't going to be possible here, so you'll forgive me for not engaging further with you.
@leonstj Well-spoken British men with deep baritones do ... something to a certain percentage of the female population. See also: Alan Rickman.
@daisicles High five, my bigfooted sister. You probably know this, but Nordstrom carries some nice shoes in a 12! I almost got a pair of taupe ankle boots at Nordstrom Rack this fall before realizing that the pair that fit me well wasn't real suede.
By aaaaanyway on The Acceptance Pie
@daisicles Just signed in to make that exact comment. Bigfoots (Bigfeet?) unite!
By I'm Right on Top of that, Rose on What If a Women's Magazine Editor Edited a BBC News Story About Syria?
@I'm Right on Top of that, Rose (PLEASE ESTABLISH APPRECIATION OF SARAH MILLER AND JIA EARLIER IN COMMENT THREAD.)
By lasso tabasco on Maria Bello: "My feelings about attachment and partnership have always been that they are fluid and evolving"
YES!!! I've always thought it was so weird that partnerships are really only considered "real" or valuable if they are sexual/romantic, or at least began that way. I live together with my best friend, and my relationship with her is much closer and important to me and my life than all of my previous and current romantic partners combined. But still, I feel like many people regard a close bestfriendship/platonic domestic partnership as a placeholder until the "real thing" comes along. Bullshit, I say!
@fruitcakewriter Literary scholars don't go looking for symbolism because of some sort of fun authorial-intent scavenger hunt, they do it to understand literature in the context of social movements, historical events, other literature of the time, and the human condition. Just because some author didn't intend for a symbol to be read as it is doesn't mean a) that that is an illegitimate interpretation of the work or b) that it doesn't say something about literature or the world that goes beyond the author. Critics don't "make up" interpretations, they make observations that synthesize literary works with bigger ideas. We don't still talk about Freudian analysis in literature because we think Freud was actually right about human psychology, we talk about Freud because the narratives he offered turn-of-the-century Europe and beyond influenced how people thought about psychology and motive, and how that translated into fiction, drama, and poetry.
@JanieS That bothered me at first too, but I realized just because you can read her as gay doesn't mean you can't read her as straight too! I personally believe it was a combination of Suzanne Collins terrible writing and Katniss's PTSD and fear of vulnerability in such a terrible environment and emotionally negligent childhood that made Katniss seem so passionless for both boys. I really got no heat from the scenes Ester describes. Katniss in general was such a repressed character. Also she can be bi as well! Sometimes bi / queer people feel attraction to different genders in different ways and at different times!
@codi_cathleen ok I'm learning I'll try again:
So sad that
did not make the list. Also,
Watermelon carrier/future world relief organizer
Did not make it either