Printed word addict, obsessive television watcher, and home cook extraordinaire (but only on Tuesdays).
This was wonderful. I've been thinking a lot about weddings this year, as this is the first year I've ever really had the opportunity to attend any as an adult, and this is such a good discussion of the kind of mixed emotions I have about them.
@Stacy H@twitter Lugging my carry-on into the bathroom is one of my peeves too. I don't know what it is about airports and needing the bathroom, but I always have to make multiple trips and I always have to deal with the stupid carry-on. It drives me nuts. I don't know that I'd want to *keep* my bag checked at the gate because I'm forever in and out of it during the times when I'm not dragging it up and down the concourse, but it'd be awfully nice if I could just put it somewhere for five minutes while I ran to the bathroom.
@harebell I would definitely agree that competency doesn't have to be the definition of adulthood. I do think of myself as an adult and it doesn't really have anything to do with how good I am at the conventional markers of adulthood.
And thank you for the condolences. My grandmother is doing better than anyone expected, but it's still a rough time, especially for my mother. The adulthood thing has actually been on my mind lately because of everything that's been going on.
@harebell Her father died nearly 20 years ago and her mother is terminally ill. She's been handling a good chunk of her mother's affairs for some time now and recently took on more because she's the only child capable of handling it.
I don't think it's about not feeling like an adult (my mom would never say she isn't an adult) so much as feeling like you don't know what you're doing and everyone else does. And I can't believe that feeling ever really goes away completely... just maybe the way you shape it in your head changes. And going through big life changes (or accumulating enough little life changes) makes it easier to reshape that feeling, maybe.
@hearts & strings Per my mother, it never really quite goes away. As she is in her 50s, I don't know if I find this comforting or disheartening. I'm 29 and the only reason I don't feel completely hopeless about this whole adulthood deal is that few of my close friends have lives that look super put together.
But I'm thinking that if you can step up and get things done when you need to, you probably are pretty adult, even if the trappings of your life aren't what you expected.
@OhMarie The fact that it's multiple houses cobbled together makes it the best. It's like someone took the homes that several of my family members had when I was a kid and welded them together with balconies and this monstrosity owned by Donald Trump that I saw on the Travel Channel once.
There's just all these little architectural features that are instantly familiar to me despite the layers of weird ugliness and it's kinda freaky but kinda cool at the same time.
@punzy Because the weather isn't actually okay to wear the slip dress, but by god you're gonna wear it anyway and maybe if you bring a coat, you won't die of hypothermia along the way. Hopefully. Hey, it's the last chance (apparently), sacrifices must be made!
@adorable-eggplant 2nd-Blackadder-series Rowan Atkinson was pretty swoonworthy in my book, last time I did a rewatch. It was a combination of the hair and the earring, I think... and the snark, of course. That's a given.
I'm not arguing that Cumberbatch is the pinnacle of hotness here, but he is hotter than any Jonas brother. Fact.
@Faintly Macabre I have definitely heard about Nordstrom! I had assumed they wouldn't have anything since I almost never find anything in regular stores, so it was a pleasant surprise. Now if I could just convince more stores to carry my size in the cheap cute shoes I need for that one outfit I won't be wearing more than a handful of times a year, I'd be in business. I am definitely happy to invest in shoes I'll be wearing a lot, but there are some pairs of shoes where you just know that the amount of times you'll wear them won't justify a high price tag.
(I'm shopping for inexpensive flats for a wedding right now and it's very traumatic.)