@mollpants "Sex workers and prostitutes are used way too often as navel-gazing devices for essay writers and society at large - we really don't need another piece that uses them as literary metaphors to make a point."
Yes. Thank you. This is what bugged me about this piece. It's beautifully written and I do think that the author approached Christina/Angela with compassion, but like... maybe this woman's life isn't just a device to throw the author's story into sharper relief. And yeah, because she's a sex worker, it bugs me more than it would if she were just, I don't know, a girl he met at a bar.
@LunaLunaLunaMoth @LunaLunaLunaMoth I don't have a problem with her English at all. That's not what I'm saying. What I have a problem with is the author's choice to portray this woman's thoughts through his own lens and his own perspective, without bringing in a third party to try and bridge the language gap to gain a deeper understanding of what Christina/Angela is saying on a more nuanced level, and/or by writing out the "pidgin" version of their conversation. (In an English-language written piece, especially a narrative like this one, the person "speaking" in broken English is inevitably going to come out sounding like the less eloquent/intelligent speaker.)
I work at an organization that deals pretty heavily with human trafficking/sex trafficking, and I spend a lot of my time handling media portrayals and cultural biases surrounding trafficked women, sex workers, and the gray areas in between these two extremes. It's true that women like Christina/Angela don't tend to write essays for the Hairpin - but that's all the more reason to give them appropriate platforms for when their voices do make it onto sites like these. Sex workers and prostitutes are used way too often as navel-gazing devices for essay writers and society at large - we really don't need another piece that uses them as literary metaphors to make a point.
For what it's worth, I really did think the prose was lovely, their interaction at the end was nice, and if this was done just a little bit differently I would be a lot more comfortable.
@anachronistique lady CLEARLY this is a safe space for all of the Fiona Feelings
I cried when I finally got to see Fiona Apple perform last year, and I'm maybe crying a little now. I think even though I've loved other artists more loudly Fiona is the one whose music has always resonated the most deeply in my bones.
oh god SOMEONE MAKE ME STOP TYPING what a fetching octopus hat she has there
So, I was really slow at getting into music (Plus, young...Fiona Apple is almost 10 years older than me) and this is the first time I've seen the video for Criminal.
I'm kind of uncomfortable with how hot that was.
By Beaker on Friday Open Thread
@jazzloon I think @yeah-elle has a great suggestion (and you should probably go with that), but you can also rent dresses that are crazytown bananapants (like at Rent the Runway) if you want to just look extra fab for the one wedding.
Or spend all your money on Anthropologie dresses! That's what I do and I twirl around and around and figure at this point I've gotten my money's worth in terms of twirling.
By panther on Friday Open Thread
@SmartCookie OK, this are kind of cliche, but: Waterfire if you're there when it's going on, Federal Hill for Italian food. Definitely see the RISD Museum if you're into art, it's free on Sundays! Downcity has lots of unique, quirky shops and the Providence Flea has been going on every Saturday although I haven't had the chance to check it out yet. There are an abundance of great restaurants--it really all depends what you're looking for, but Atwells Ave, Broadway, and Wickenden Street are good places to start. Also check out the Providence Athaeneum, it's a really beautiful old library where Edgar Allan Poe used to hang out! Anyone can stop by and browse, but only members can check out books. Benefit Street and the whole East Side is FULL of immaculately preserved Colonial-era houses and is a lovely place to wander around.
By jazzloon on Friday Open Thread
@SmartCookie I always like to bring a nice bottle of alcohol (then you can help drink it!) OR an offer to go out to a dinner that you pay for. That way, you get to explore the city you're in a little more, and you give a present that you don't have to wrap.
By yeah-elle on Friday Open Thread
@jazzloon Buy a cheaper classic sheath and spend the saved money on getting that shit TAILORED. It will fit you like a glove, look effortlessly chic, you will look crazytown bananapants fabulous.
PS. downlikehoney is my tumblr name!
By jazzloon on Friday Open Thread
ALRIGHT. I am attending two weddings in the month of September and I don't have a dress for either. The first wedding I just need to look regular-pretty for, but the second contains a chance that I will meet my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend; you know, the one that he dated for four years and then she dumped him and broke his heart and then started dating someone new two months later? (He's clearly upgraded now, by dating a snarky Mexican food enthusiast internet lurker.)
WHATEVER. I need to look "scary fabulous"-- like I'm suuuuper put together and I am a part-time sophisticated supermodel, but also really chill and clearly I didn't put THAT much thought into my outfit because I have a closet FULL of these clothes, and also I'm a strong, independent woman living in the big city which I'VE GOT BY THE BALLS and I came out to New Jersey because it's fucking quaint or whatever, and like I could spell "quaint" right on the first try. What are yr favorite stores? Seen any cute dresses lately? I will even accept a flowy jumper, because I want to MAKE A STATEMENT.
ALSO: I have so many wonderful new Tumblr friends from last week and I want more! jazzedloon.tumblr.com