@laurnadoone I get where you're coming from, I really do. It would be ideal for her safety and everything if she got away from Chris Brown and renounced him or whatever. But I guess part of what gets me so worked up about this, is I want to be like, don't you SEE? It's not that simple! These are real abuse dynamics happening in real time. Talk honestly about those. Talk honestly about why it isn't rare or unthinkable that things are playing out this way, that it's not her fault. Rihanna doesn't have to be a role model in this situation precisely BECAUSE this is a real life, very common dynamic. And if these girls you're working with have experienced abuse, I can't imagine it's more helpful to give it to them black and white--i.e. leave or stay, look at Rihanna, she left! This is how this stuff really happens. This is how it really works. It's so much more difficult and confusing than people want to believe.