By sophia_h on Selective Empathy and "An Outlet for Maternal Feelings"

@I'm Right on Top of that, Rose I tried not to give her flack (since I knew there would be plenty) -- I was mostly confused because her letter doesn't make it clear if she wants someone to date or someone to sleep with. I kind of get that it's hard not to hook up with someone you're into who doesn't seem to care about their marriage vows, and I also suspect it's one of those things you won't thoroughly know is a bad idea unless you've done it and had it end badly. (Which I suppose it might not!) The commenters are more upset, I think, at the judgmental value tone that comes across with the "can only sleep with successful men, all successful men are married, ergo must sleep with married men" theorem. Though I think unpacking the notion of male success and why we're conditioned to look for that in order to find someone attractive would be more useful.

Posted on January 4, 2013 at 1:33 pm 3

By Porn Peddler on Selective Empathy and "An Outlet for Maternal Feelings"

LW1, have you met a guy named Bob recently?

Posted on January 4, 2013 at 12:45 pm 18

By atipofthehat on Locks, Ships, and the Sexless Non-Marriage


“The rule is, jam tomorrow and jam yesterday—but never jam today.”

~The White Queen

Of course, rules are meant to be broken. Jam on!

Posted on February 21, 2012 at 2:40 pm 6