@MarianTheLibrarian Hang in there, Marian! <3
@Bittersweet What worked for me: keeping my fingernails super duper short, no exceptions. The second they start to grow out, my face breaks out BAD. Fingernails harbor bacteria, and I guess maybe I touch my face a lot without realizing? Not sure, but there's inarguable cause and effect in my case. Sigh.
@Stiffy Byng I am excited because I get the Wodehouse reference!!!
@yeah-elle That's funny, when I'm stressed out before bed I play a bunch of computer solitaire JUST SO I can get that half-drowsy visualization going on! It makes it so I'm not ruminating about everything I'm stressed about and can just go to sleep.
@Lily Rowan WORD. I can't deal with the hotness.
I've now said "this is NPR" out loud so many times sitting here at my desk, the words have lost all meaning.
I had tacos for dinner, but now I want more... :-(
@queenofbithynia SERIOUSLY. I know plenty of gals who had an amazing time the first time they had sex. I think the trick is that these were people who were already comfortable with both their choice of partner and their own body.
@Briony Fields Yes, SO MANY CONDOMS!!! (one at a time...)
@Slutface the difference btwn craigslist and OkCupid is that one is kiiind of from another era/generation in terms of finding dates. And it's sketchy. OkCupid is much more mainstream and more widely used among 23-year-olds, so the chances of finding a nice guy your age on there are probably much much better. I'd say, start online dating and meet someone that way. And then have sex with them. Especially if you're a girl, it WON'T be hard. The power balance on that site is greatly in females' favor.
Personally, though, I'd adopt a combination of OkCupid/wait it out as a strategy. That might have something to do with me just not liking to have sex with random people I don't know at all (I make all new guys I go out with get tested for HIV etc., and I find that the length of time it takes for an STI panel to come back is about long enough for me to figure out whether I want to go there with someone or not), but I'd say that by getting online you'll not only have plenty of opportunity, you'll also have plenty of opportunity to be as discerning (or not) as you want.