@enic It was mentioned in one of the threads above, towards the very top.
And I think it's interesting that people use anal sex as a way to prevent babies. Are they completely ignoring that the easiest way to get AIDS is through anal sex? You can deal with pregnancy, can you really deal with AIDS?
@Hey,Lookit! To me, Scarlet sounds pretty secure. She would have to be to do such an interview, I think! And I like hearing what everyone has to say. If we all just said "Gee, I never thought of it that way. Cool" there would be no discussion. I don't really see it as fighting. But again, just like sex, to each her own!
@Hey,Lookit! Seriously? You think the Hairpin posted this article to get us to join forces to re-define the word "virgin"? No way. They posted this article so we would discuss it. Not start a task force.
Not everything has to be about something bigger. What's wrong with just talking about what is right in front of us, which is an interview with a virgin who isn't actually a virgin, by popular definition?
@MilesofMountains I was thinking of STDs, not pregnancy! Sorry!
And right on. If she doesn't want to have a penis in her vagina, that's her choice. But calling yourself a virgin when you have any kind of sex just seems unnecessary. Like what's the big deal? Virginity implies a certain thing and it does not imply anal sex!
@sophia_h But she consented to an interview about...virginity. Why does Scarlet get to re-define the term and expect everyone to just be okay with it?
@MilesofMountains I would bet a lot of money that the failure rate of condoms for anal sex is very high. That's a really tight space.
Also, I think the problem is that by definition, a virgin is someone who has not had sex. Apparently a lot of us include all sex in that and others just include vaginal sex. It really is subjective and that's why people are telling her she is wrong.
I think if she had told that shitty guy in college that she would have anal sex, he would have had a different response.
So many Catholic girls in high school had this attitude. I would ask them if you could get AIDS or any other S(exually!)TD from it, and if so, that makes it sex. But like others have already said, virginity is subjective. We all do what we have to.
@adorable-eggplant You know these questions might not even be real? If you have to get all of your advice from the Hairpin/advice columns on the internet, you have bigger problems than some snark.
I think this was a funny response to ridiculousness and that's my opinion. Are we still allowed to have those, along with a sense of humor, on here?
@adorable-eggplant But the questions asked weren't real questions! I don't want to hang out with my boyfriend's mom? SO WHAT! Why don't I have a boyfriend but drug addicts on TV do? SERIOUSLY? The Les Mis question? I think the Hairpin is showing us some of the golden letters that we don't usually get to see.