@Lena Otterman@facebook Uh...okay.
@sox Cabs without cash is hurting people: people who drive cabs for a living. People who support their families and often work multiple shifts. And I'm getting angry just typing so I will stop. But really, it's not even remotely a victimless crime. Even just not tipping is pretty gross in my book.
There's a whole lack of empathy thing that bugs me. Ugh.
@bonymaroni I think the idea for this piece is clever, but it was written poorly. I kept having to go back and read sentences because they were slapped together so... oddly. e_e
@Megasus If you google it, you'll learn that the chemical compound was originally used as an antidepressant in the mid 20th century. It's a psychotropic drug that was taken off the market, though I have no idea how it differs or is similar to psychotropic drugs currently available via Rx.
Experimenting or not (which contains the risk of becoming addicted) with mind altering substances does not merit sarcastic shaming the same way sexual experimentation (and risking STD, pregnancy) does not merit slut shaming. Just saying.
@AnnaO Let me walk you through this one - it's totally easy.
Look at what a bad bad girl I am, I shoplift and screw over cab drivers, I burn my friends when they do me favors, I tresspass and have done LOTS AND LOTS OF drugs. Impressed yet? I am also ENGAGED to a man that is too lofty for Oprah and totally gets Almodovar.
I can get away with all this because I am a pretty girl. And despite everything I've said about what an asshole I can be, apparently my friends also think I am really self effacing and over-apologetic.
Where am I going with this? LL is a pretty girl too. And while she's not specifically known for being a huge asshole to other people, I suspect she too has done LOTS and LOTS of drugs. But she didn't apologize to Oprah. And she doesn't even HAVE a fiance, let alone one that is SO DOWN with Almodovar.
To wrap it all up: I am pretty and treat people badly. I apologize a lot (too much some would say) but I don't think I mean it because wouldn't I just try harder instead? LL is pretty and has made a fine start out of flushing a great career down the toilet. She didn't apologize to America OR Oprah for being such an asshole to herself. But that was good, because she should just try harder instead.
@fabel (finally, someone else admits that's the reason they find Lohan's "confession" unbelievable)
This. Nobody has done coke "10 or 15" times. It's either less than 5 or ALL OF IT ALL THE TIME.
@alabee Yeah, privileged white women shouldn't speak out against boring white people problems like sexual harassment and stop and frisk. We should use our privilege constructively, to do important work like watching Oprah and writing vague, navel gazing personal essays.
I agree with others' comments. This in particular was baffling to me:
". . while remaining wholly oblivious to those who by birth or fortune have fewer choices than we do, or different choices, and in consequence we have a credenda that permits full-fledged social media campaigns to be waged against… catcalling, and 22-year-old Bard College graduates named Samantha to sue for stop-and-frisk, and Bushwick artists to reframe unsolicited dick pics as 'assault,'. . "
In what way is it a poor use of feminists' time to combat microaggressions like catcalling and unsolicited sexual advances? They shore up and support the sexist society we live and breathe in. How is it a failure borne of privilege to find those things important and to fight against them? I'm an adult and I'm capable of holding multiple complex thoughts at once, and of championing diverse causes. Why can't feminists work both to deconstruct the enormous institutional barriers that women of color, and lesbian and trans women, and immigrant women, etc. face while simultaneously acknowledging the microaggressions caused by lower-stakes propositions like the ludicrously white-washed Girls? These microaggressions don't arise fully formed from the ether; they're born of the culture we interact with every day.
I agree wholeheartedly with the message of #solidarityisforwhitewomen, but this seems like a bungling of its premise.
(Also, count me in as a young urban woman who can count with, like, three fingers the number of people she knows who have done coke 10-15 times.)
I'm so sick of people acting like shoplifting is fucking cool. I kind of hated this piece in general, but I really don't understand the need to admit to shoplifting like it's no big deal. If something doesn't belong to you, don't fucking take it. You're not settling some score or being anti-corporate. I know that's not the point of this piece, but I just hated the weird bragginess of her list of "bad" things. Also, it's a pretty girl trick, so the author's obvs super-hot, because she gets away with so much? Ugh.
@bonymaroni I'm with you... And my question is this (partially in response to @cardiganboots' summation of the article): Why is the author invested in Linsay Lohan going on Oprah and apologizing? Did she fuck the author over somehow?
Just because apologies are something society really believes celebrities should be handing out doesn't make that true. It's just that when we all get together and "tsk, tsk, tsk" over this person's actions, we can feel better about our own.
Linsay Lohan would only owe me an apology if she said she was going to help me move and then flaked, or something similar. "Why are we duty-bound to give a fuck?" is a much better question than "why didn't she apologize?".
Of course people behave this way ALL. THE FUCKING. TIME. Without being terrible people, even. It just really sucks for the people who make news when they do it.
Not sure how I'm supposed to feel, here.