I had to skip down to say that Justin is great, and he is like my perfect dude. Yes, my perfect dude is Spock. I can't really be alone in this, can I?
Also, I have also sent long apology emails when I hurt other people's feelings. I understand that other people don't do the same, but it's interesting to see the other side of that.
@themegnapkin That's exactly what's going to happen! I thought they would end up together simply from hanging out so much, but I changed my mind when I saw their MBTI (I'm obsessed with Myers Briggs). I then saw that Tim was wayyy too bossy for Jess, and Jess really did not like conflict. I cringed every time he got mad -- it was so uncomfortable how they detailed him yelling at her.
Anyway, I got the feeling they'd find better people soon, but were (are?) too immature at the moment. Both of them seemed bad at enjoying being single...
As I did last week...what's the weird, funny, convoluted, thought-provoking way you met your significant other? I will also take stories that are: sweet; normal; online; etc.
AHHH QUEER CHICK. The first one relates to me so hard it burns. IT BURNS. I did the worst thing possible, which was as soon as I found out (from someone I later realized had serious insecurities himself), I got drunk and freaked out a lot and texted him immediately that I knew and then told him I was queer too, so, you know, it's cool. (It was more that the guy who told me was just not nice at all, and I believed my friends who pushed me to ask him...ugh).
We never talked about it, and we didn't last long after (though we both kind of...pushed each other away, and I still miss him), but I still beat myself up about it. HOW I WISH YOU'D BEEN THERE, QUEER CHICK. Any hindsight advice?
Hey ladies, I didn't get a chance to ask this last week, but I loved it the week before! What's the weird, convoluted way you met your significant other? And what did it feel like when you met them? Did you just know? *sighs, slumber party style*
@I'm Right on Top of that, Rose But it's a visceral metaphor! No puppies were actually harmed in the poem!!
Jiaaaaa. Why are you being RELEVANT?
@xcbxcberyery I'm sorry you're lonely. I believe one day you will find love!
I was actually thinking about this earlier this week. I've met people and have friends who value intelligence and charm and social tradition, which are all important, but not very good indicators when it comes to building lasting relationships in which one can be honest and vulnerable and cared for. It's hard to see when people want those relationships but follow all these other indicators instead.
Although like George says, we have to learn that the hard way.
@lora.bee Why are you keeping them at arm's length? Is there something about them that bothers you?
Or do you feel scared that they'll reject you if you are yourself around them?
Either way...I would recommend spending some time thinking about what you want and how you feel. Don't factor in their feelings before listening and understanding yours. If you aren't sure how you feel, spend some time outside yourself and hang out with them and check in with yourself while you do -- are you enjoying yourself? are you distracted, bored, happy?
Finally, don't let fear rule you. Your heart is beautiful and amazing and weird, plus it's YOURS, so why do you want to hide it? It's lovely and people want to see it. If it's not these people, fuck them. But maybe you want to see it!
TL;DR: YOU AMAZING.