On Dating a Closeted Bi Guy, Discovering a Boob Fetish, and Sleeping With Twins

AHHH QUEER CHICK. The first one relates to me so hard it burns. IT BURNS. I did the worst thing possible, which was as soon as I found out (from someone I later realized had serious insecurities himself), I got drunk and freaked out a lot and texted him immediately that I knew and then told him I was queer too, so, you know, it's cool. (It was more that the guy who told me was just not nice at all, and I believed my friends who pushed me to ask him...ugh).

We never talked about it, and we didn't last long after (though we both kind of...pushed each other away, and I still miss him), but I still beat myself up about it. HOW I WISH YOU'D BEEN THERE, QUEER CHICK. Any hindsight advice?

Posted on August 16, 2013 at 8:52 am 0

On Friday Open Thread

Hey ladies, I didn't get a chance to ask this last week, but I loved it the week before! What's the weird, convoluted way you met your significant other? And what did it feel like when you met them? Did you just know? *sighs, slumber party style*

Posted on August 9, 2013 at 6:03 pm 0

On Three Poems About Unrequited Love

@I'm Right on Top of that, Rose But it's a visceral metaphor! No puppies were actually harmed in the poem!!

Posted on August 6, 2013 at 4:16 pm 1

On Three Poems About Unrequited Love

Jiaaaaa. Why are you being RELEVANT?

Posted on August 6, 2013 at 12:17 pm 0

On George Saunders to the Class of 2013: "Err in the Direction of Kindness"

@xcbxcberyery I'm sorry you're lonely. I believe one day you will find love!

Posted on August 1, 2013 at 12:16 pm 12

On George Saunders to the Class of 2013: "Err in the Direction of Kindness"

I was actually thinking about this earlier this week. I've met people and have friends who value intelligence and charm and social tradition, which are all important, but not very good indicators when it comes to building lasting relationships in which one can be honest and vulnerable and cared for. It's hard to see when people want those relationships but follow all these other indicators instead.

Although like George says, we have to learn that the hard way.

Posted on August 1, 2013 at 12:14 pm 1

On Friday Open Thread

@lora.bee Why are you keeping them at arm's length? Is there something about them that bothers you?

Or do you feel scared that they'll reject you if you are yourself around them?

Either way...I would recommend spending some time thinking about what you want and how you feel. Don't factor in their feelings before listening and understanding yours. If you aren't sure how you feel, spend some time outside yourself and hang out with them and check in with yourself while you do -- are you enjoying yourself? are you distracted, bored, happy?

Finally, don't let fear rule you. Your heart is beautiful and amazing and weird, plus it's YOURS, so why do you want to hide it? It's lovely and people want to see it. If it's not these people, fuck them. But maybe you want to see it!


Posted on July 26, 2013 at 3:21 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

I asked this question to the pin a year ago -- but I love hearing stories of how people got together, especially the more convoluted ones. How did y'all meet your significant other?

Posted on July 26, 2013 at 3:13 pm 4

On Friday Open Thread

@fondue with cheddar When you don't have laugh lines? I generally think if you're dressed semi-casualness, it always has a perky elegance to it.

Posted on July 19, 2013 at 3:36 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

Been on a writing kick lately! I'm thinking of submitting to the Hairpin soon, actually. I expect to get rejected, but boy oh boy have I enjoyed writing lately.

I also met with the writer of the Peggy Paula story posted last week. Ugh, you guys I love writing. Share your writing with me so I can devour it with my dying eyes!

Posted on July 19, 2013 at 3:34 pm 8