Okay, I loved this article enough to click the byline and read up more, and I've got to say, really getting a visual of your style is just next level. This comment feels super out of place given how serious the essay got at the end there but I just LOVE IT when I find a new woman whose style inspires me so much.
'"Sad Girls 'R Us" is a crass but accurate title for my personal library.'
HALEY, CAN YOU POST THE TITLES OF YOUR ENTIRE LIBRARY PLEASE!?
Also, fun fact. At one point apparently, he was roommates with Cat Marnell. I'm not sure why I find that factoid fascinating.
This is a really great article that deals with the ambiguity of the issue (of connection in the new media landscape) really elegantly. However, one thing that sort of bothers me is leaping to the conclusion that his lion/squirrel metaphor automatically equates the WOMEN with the prey/nuts rather than the PLEASURE being the referent. Not that I am defending Nev, who may very well be a tremendous douche (if not something worse than that), but I sometimes get annoyed when people seem to willfully misread metaphors and get more offended than is warranted. This is on par with that Thomas Jefferson analogy of slavery being comparable to holding a wolf by its ears. I have heard people say, "Ugh! He compared black people to wolves! What a racist!" Now, of course Jefferson has a tremendously complicated and problematic relationship with race, and may very well be described as a "racist" by the contemporary standard of the term, but saying that he is comparing black people to wolves is a plain misunderstanding of his metaphor.
I somehow have a feeling this comment won't go over too well, but I'm crossing my fingers that someone will get what I'm saying.
@beetnemesis Jesus Christ, what has happened to The Hairpin?
I've been enjoying the stuff that the new editors have been putting up so far, but this article is almost identical to something I saw on Jezebel. And the divisiveness and vitriol in the comments thread went right into Jezebel territory as well. I'm not saying there isn't ever a call for this sort of dialogue or language, but I always thought that back in the Edith days, The Hairpin unapologetically just WASN'T one of those times or places. And that's why we loved it.
Ok, the part in "I Love Dick" where Chris Kraus (real or fictional, I realize it's ambiguous) admits that she was intimidated by some of Sylvère's past lovers and references a note from Kathy Acker that says something like "Best lay I've ever had" made me laugh out loud. And then wonder at just how pretentious a college girl I am. But mostly I laughed because it was hilarious and perfect.
Personal essays with adrift female voices composed in short, bitter-sweet vignettes are my happy place.
@Pandito I'm really hoping that this is a very convoluted joke wherein they are making fun of the concept of "Overheard at ___"-type posts, and not making fun of labor viewing parties by way of a generic "Overheard at ___"-type post. Please make that be the premise of the joke, because if that is actually a thing… I just don't know...
This is absolutely amazing. Is it weird that I'm hoping that there's a part II of this story?