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On How I Became an Adult Backstreet Boys Fan

Personal essays with adrift female voices composed in short, bitter-sweet vignettes are my happy place.

Posted on August 15, 2014 at 2:48 pm 0

On Overheard at a Labor Video Viewing Party

@Pandito I'm really hoping that this is a very convoluted joke wherein they are making fun of the concept of "Overheard at ___"-type posts, and not making fun of labor viewing parties by way of a generic "Overheard at ___"-type post. Please make that be the premise of the joke, because if that is actually a thing… I just don't know...

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 3:26 am 0

On Pregnancy, Week by Week

This is absolutely amazing. Is it weird that I'm hoping that there's a part II of this story?

Posted on August 11, 2014 at 5:48 pm 1

On False Dichotomy vs Who Cares

@AllisonWonderland Of course she hasn't read it. She can, however, freely talk down on it from her superior perch as a real almost-novelist who WRITES at the end of the day and is a FEMINIST, since a gendered critique of behavior and morality is the ultimate and only standard to which society should be held.

Posted on February 27, 2014 at 1:29 pm 0

On Writer Unable to Use Important Words Correctly

Posted on December 16, 2013 at 6:05 pm 0

On Writer Unable to Use Important Words Correctly

Posted on December 16, 2013 at 6:04 pm 0

On "Smile, Girl"

@peasofmind
Look, fine. I'm not totally sold on her idea here. You're getting a little bit overheated. I also don't see where saying that aggression is "coded as masculine" says anything other than that they are coded as masculine. So? This is exactly what I'm talking about in terms of using a certain phrase that you've picked up from gender studies and fail to expand on or develop into a meaningful argument, especially in the real-world circumstances discussed here. Can you prove in any way that a paradigm shift towards a non-aggressive, asexual dynamic between men and women is possible, let alone desirable?

Posted on December 10, 2013 at 4:07 pm 1

On "Smile, Girl"

@harebell
I see your point, but I still think that your imperative toward being nice rather than being nasty (which is laced throughout your entire answer) is a traditionally feminine virtue. I don't see ever making progress if you can't let go of the idea of yourself as a nice person.

Now your argument that it is men's job to be responsible for yourself is one of the strongest arguments against rape culture victim-blaming. However, I don't see how extending it to verbal sexual advances really advantages women in any way. The idea that we can't handle a verbal exchange reinforces paternalistic coddling of females. Are they physically disadvantaged w/r/t men? Absolutely. But I don't think there is a direct line between street harassers and rapists. I know you didn't even bring up rape, but I feel that's the implication or at least the area you are drawing your argument from. However, if women are not physically threatened, why should they be treated specially? The desire for this asexual utopia is just sort of absurd. There is sexual theory and then there is reality. Break it down as much as you like, people want to have sex and will try to have sex. There will be unwanted sexual advances. It is a reality of the world that you have to deal with and negotiate with.

Also I appreciate your recommendations. Yes I'm familiar with them. I'm not looking to read feminist critique right now. I'm commenting on what women my age are currently repeating to each other online. Not to mention the vitriol with which they deal with criticism of any kind. I'm not so concerned about you being mad at me because I'm coming off as a bitch here, but the reaction to Molly Fisher's piece for n+1 is a good example of something very weird going on here.

Posted on December 10, 2013 at 3:49 pm 1

On "Smile, Girl"

@peasofmind

She did not at all say that privilege makes one immune to sexism. She's saying that the imperative to silence sexual harassment is based on the bourgeois mentality wherein women are delicate, blushing flowers who must be protected from masculine sexual aggression. She's arguing that instead of increasing the recrimination of the men, the women should toughen up, deal with the sexual exchange. In a way, yelling back at them is exactly what Paglia is arguing, so you guys getting all huffy here is pretty mystifying.

Now I used "boring" and "swill" because I read femblogs a lot, and I see the same uncreative arguments being made over and over again. It may very well be a personal failing in me that, to a certain degree, I value the aesthetics of prose and argument over their content, but that's what I think. I'm sure that the daily wordcount demand has something to do with why there is so much of the same thing repeated over and over. Who could possibly come up with something smart or interesting to say every day? I understand that. That being said, femblogs are remarkably insulated and unproductive. There is exactly one party line and it is repeated over and over. There is nothing dangerous about the ideas proposed. Nothing attractive. And certainly nothing exciting. It's just a bunch of college girls throwing around the terms they learned in their gender studies class and assuming that by inserting a couple words like "capitalism" and "the patriarchy", they will magically be saying something of value.

Posted on December 10, 2013 at 2:52 pm 1

On "Smile, Girl"

@TheGenYgirl Not really, that's why I submitted it without comment. But at least she's not boring as hell and didn't repeat the same politically correct swill nonstop.

Posted on December 10, 2013 at 1:09 pm 0