On No Excuses: Responding To One-Handed Reviews

Fuck yes this author. Please lots more from her.

Posted on September 4, 2014 at 3:05 pm 1

On Some of the Psychics I Have Been To

i love this

Posted on August 24, 2014 at 10:53 am 0

On Riding the Staten Island Ferry for the Sake of Riding of the Staten Island Ferry on a Wednesday Afternoon

I enjoy this. I lost my job (which I was at for 4 years) in January and have been unemployed for all of 2014. This is the first period of my life where I have no school or job for this long. (I'm 30)
Some days I fail to do Things.
I love the line "or an ad of your own" so funny.
This is perfect, calm, writing that is 'evocative', but evocative of a not too exciting emotion, in that it is accurately conveying... I'm not a literary critic. I don't know how to express what I mean, but I am into this. Thanks.

Posted on August 24, 2014 at 10:45 am 0

On The Worst Flirting in the World (in Ascending Order)

Literally the moment this story popped up on my FB feed I was sending an e-mail to a guy I just started seeing who had sent me a weird thing he thought I would like that I was offended by. I was like "Oh, that is not nice."

And he wrote back

Meant it as a compliment. On the other hand, can't have you thinking I'm *too* nice. ;-)

How goes your morning?"

Don't respond to my asserting my preferences with a cute winky smiley face of "it's better this way". Groooossss.

Posted on August 12, 2014 at 12:02 pm 0

On The Tragic History of Fallen Teen Magazines

I love this! Thank you for writing this. I was soooo into following what magazines were starting and who was running them when Jump & other random ones were out. TWIST? why was that a thing?
Oh man. Thank you for this.

Posted on August 1, 2014 at 6:19 pm 0

On Trends Men Hate

I love this so much.
I think writing "A" before the Pop Tarts shirt one instead of just writing "Pop Tart shirts..." plural is COMEDY GENIUS!

Posted on July 10, 2014 at 12:56 am 0

On When You're Unemployed

I got fired in January. I am switching between sleep shorts and day shorts. They are the same but different colours. I feel the sundial/TV thing hard.

Posted on June 23, 2014 at 7:15 pm 0

On Dating a Quasi-Boss, Becoming Lesbian Othello, and Taking the Road Less Confusing

If you want to be out as not-straight but don't know how to say it in a way that is not TMI, mention an ex that's a chick. Put a rainbow sticker on your door/car/bag. (Can also be an ally/safe space thing, but can mean you are queer)

But also - UNPOPULAR OPINION - I think some monogamously married women with completely straight dudes maybe need to understand that if they aren't in the lesbian community at all they are going to be taken as straight.

I don't want to encourage biphobia, and I hope with your close friends you feel you can be totally open. But if it is a person whom you would NEVER tell a current sexual fantasy to or discuss a past sexual relationship with, then yes, you're straight to them. You might need to just accept that.

Or, may I humbly suggest you ask yourself WHY you want acquaintances to know that IF you were single again you might date a chick?

Posted on June 10, 2014 at 10:39 pm 0

On GOOP for Normals: An Attainable Lifestyle Newsletter

@queensissy weirdly so true about the thin circle!

Posted on June 9, 2014 at 10:45 pm 0

On Ask a Fancy Person: Entry-Level Expensive, Unwanted Guests and the Gratefulness Feedback Loop

@superfluous consonants I am laughing SO HARD at "or just throw ourselves into the sea?".
I just yell-read this to my partner in the other room!

Okay, so here is my advice, as someone very into sending thank you notes, but also very familiar with getting into shame at not getting back to people etc.

If it has been "too long", send another note and include a thank you. Like... what is coming up? hmmm... nothing.
Okay just send a thank you. It will be nice!

But for me, what I did was use this past Valentine's Day as a chance to reach out to a bunch of people I felt I should have been in contact with over the past year or so. Sort of like Christmas cards, but a less busy time.
It has had great results. Reconnecting with old friends and stuff.

My big advice: set up a desk, or at least a shelf or box with thank you cards, envelope, your address book (or, old envelopes from mail they sent you), forever stamps, stickers, nice pen...
this way you can dash these things off quickly when needed.

Posted on June 9, 2014 at 2:13 pm 0