By laurel on Cookie Monster Covers Icona Pop's "I Love It"

@iceberg These two dance companies are not even a little bit mutually exclusive.

Posted on August 12, 2013 at 5:03 pm 2

By rallisaurus on Daisy, You're a Drip, Dear: Detestable Literary Characters Who Are Not Technically Villains

Can I add Edmund Bertram from Mansfield Park? Because dude is terrible! I know we're supposed to hate the girl Bertrams and the Crawfords, but at least they were fun! Edmund is just a bore. I'm with Mary Crawford on this one.

Posted on May 17, 2013 at 11:28 am 9

By Reginal T. Squirge on Boyfriends' Mothers, "Compassion," and Les Misérables

You have to think about how awful and/or boring those relationships are.

I mean, lots of people can fit into sandals and have a great time wearing them but that doesn't mean I should feel bad for recognizing that it's not my thing.

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 2:47 pm 9

By adorable-eggplant on Boyfriends' Mothers, "Compassion," and Les Misérables

@iceberg But really, with love? It feels a bit more like a pillory to me: you're kind of concerned about this thing you've never done, but don't have a lot of venues to explore or talk about it? Or you feel sad that you are having trouble finding a partner and wonder if it's something inside yourself?

Those are not questions I'd brush off with snark. It just seems like pouring salt on whatever sad/lonely/confused wound lead the LW to write in the first place.

Everybody (LWs, too) if you want a real answer, submit it to Captain Awkward.

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 2:46 pm 24

By I'm Right on Top of that, Rose on Boyfriends' Mothers, "Compassion," and Les Misérables

@Kristen This A Lady and A Dude are rubbing me the wrong way. I really don't know what to say, they were just trying to be funny. What is up? Maybe we should just keep getting advice from them. I doubt it a lot, no offense. (I don't feel bad.)

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 2:42 pm 34

By Diana on Boyfriends' Mothers, "Compassion," and Les Misérables

Well, yes, "imperfect" would be the term for this advice. I'm glad you didn't let the letter writers' dilemmas get in the way of your wisecracks. Sexual incompatibility, supportive friendships and long-term loneliness are such a waste of advice column inches! Bonus points for telling them how insignificant, exaggerated, or hopeless their troubles were. You should look into this full time.

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 2:30 pm 69

By pixieg on Boyfriends' Mothers, "Compassion," and Les Misérables

Yeah, can we not do this again? Fun experiment, but it seems like none of the people writing in got any help at all here.

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 2:28 pm 79

By spineapple tap on Affection, Gift Returns, and Professors on Facebook

LW#1 here!

Thank you so much for all of the feedback, I was touched. You're right, the term grimace did make it sound like a terrible situation (I was at a mental low that day about it), and I'm grateful for the support in both directions. It's reassuring to hear from people who are in relationships where the affection dynamic is uneven who have figured out a way to be happy with it, and also reassuring to hear that I could theoretically meet somebody else with the decency to pick me up in the rain but also to kiss me hello.

Writing the letter was cathartic and allowed me to stop thinking about it, and the interim has been better. He's made an effort to spoon a couple of times since then, and after four years, I will of course put thought into it before making any drastic changes.

I hope I don't sound like a moron who cohabited too casually! I've known all along that I don't plan to get married, but a roommate situation seemed reasonable after being together for 2.5 years.

I guess it's always hard to gauge what's normal in relationships. I used to pride myself on spending plenty of time apart from my boyfriend - it makes us happier to see each other! We have our own hobbies! - but perhaps it's a sign that we're pretty detached.

I assumed I would be single again by now (it's always been an entertaining cycle of beaus and single up until now); so several years with one person is new territory.

Posted on January 15, 2013 at 2:56 pm 6

By jule_b_sorry on Affection, Gift Returns, and Professors on Facebook

@parallel-lines Lol I got a pair of Louboutin boots (see story in other comment above) and I really don't like them. Yes, I know that makes me a brat, but I'd much rather have something more practical that I can wear everyday -like, it feels weird to have very very fancy shoes I can never wear and then have like only one pair for daily office wear, when the Loubs could buy me oodles of cute mid-priced office-heels. So, even guys that gift Loubs aren't always perfect, lol!

Posted on January 15, 2013 at 2:15 pm 1

By fabel on Affection, Gift Returns, and Professors on Facebook

Oh, & I disagree with the conveniently losing the present thing for the second letter. All I know is that my boyfriend would be more upset that I was careless with his gift than if I simply didn't like it.

Posted on January 15, 2013 at 12:30 pm 15