@parsleysagerosemary&thyme More hugs. Your situation sounds really hard, and I feel for you. I am in the latter stages of divorce, and my ex and I are at a place where we can actually be kind to one another again, and that kindness reminds me of the good times and makes it easier to forget the bad times - but then I remind myself that the bad times were bad enough to make me leave, and that even though I've had doubts, I have felt more myself this past year than I ever did when I was with him.
I am so sorry. I think being fearful of the future is natural, and that you are taking the right steps in trying not to let that particular anxiety in. When I get those feelings, I remember that my father and stepmother are both divorced and call each other the loves of their lives and that they don't mind how long it took them to find each other. And then I call a friend, tell them my fears, and they will reassure me.
Take care and be kind to yourself.
@thatgirl That is awful. He is awful. So glad you got away.
@Hot Doom Oooohhhh gosh, earthquakes. I was getting icked out by everyone's bug stories, but then your comment reminded me of getting woken up by a huge earthquake three months after I moved here, wondering why the ceiling was falling on my head.
@penny dreadful I think he's sexy! And I have Jeff G story: a friend and I were walking down 57th street, and we saw him walking toward us. Suddenly, he is no longer walking in our general direction but clearly walking straight toward me - intently staring, moving a bit faster. He got within arms reach, I said (very quietly) "Hi Jeff Goldblum" and he suddenly veered and went around me. Our theory was he was not wearing his glasses or contacts and mistook me for someone else.
It was great.
@4and20blkbirds That is awful. I'm so sorry!
This might be silly, but I need help parsing my feelings or getting smacked with some common sense or something. My boyfriend is getting a new tattoo next week. That's fantastic, I like boys with tattoos. It is an album cover or something (I have no idea which band), all fine and good. But there is a picture of a naked woman in it, and I just have negative feelings about it. More specifically, I am having a negative reaction but I'm not sure exactly why, just vaguely "feminism...objectification...grr" rumblings. So, I guess: breasts in tattoos on guys? I'm not freaking out or anything, just feeling vagely troubled and need some help delving into why, or if this is even problematic at all.
@brainchild That is cute!
@terrific Some healthy living bloggers put workouts up on their blogs and have archives where you can access them if you don't want to read the blogs themselves (and see a million pictures of oatmeal). I like the workouts from pbfingers.com and fitnessista.com. The latter is starting her summer challenge this weekend - it is very specific on what to do on which days of the week, and I find her tone to be pretty encouraging and body positive. I did her winter challenge and found it to be really hard but doable.