On Are Tiaras The New Power Scrunchies?

@causedbycomma I definitely HAVE rocked headbands-the-NYT-thinks-are-tiaras around conservative old DC, and I felt not at all out of place.

Posted on December 4, 2014 at 2:38 pm 0

On Are Tiaras The New Power Scrunchies?

@Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that)
Yeah, I failed to see any actual tiaras in the article, other than the one Kendall Jenner was wearing. Embellished headbands and headpieces, yes, but tiaras, no. Definitely the two pictures with "real life" ladies were just fancy headbands.

Posted on December 4, 2014 at 12:41 pm 0

On How My Obsession With Furnishing A Future Put Me Nearly $40,000 In Debt

TL;DR I think many of us found the lack of editing or writing skill much more objectionable than the subject matter of the piece.

Posted on November 5, 2013 at 1:51 pm 1

On How My Obsession With Furnishing A Future Put Me Nearly $40,000 In Debt

Eugh. Okay, look.

A lot of the comments have been perceived as personal attacks on the author. Which, I mean, the version of herself that she paints here? Not likable! Sure, she made a lot of very poor decisions as a young adult, and I cringed as I read about them; but they weren't the real reason I felt animosity towards the (imagined) author. Throwing in fleeting thoughts on the love of a good man because [who knows]? Treating what are honestly very commonplace growing pains as celebrated, insightful revelations? Inserting the murder stuff that is clearly an integral part of her young adult experience (clear from the comments/her other writing, NOT from this essay) in an awkward manner, seemingly as an afterthought, as a diversion from the judgment of her readers? Describing "dusty riverbed trailer parks" to paint a bleak picture of home, when she has made it ABUNDANTLY CLEAR to her audience that she didn't come from those trailer parks? These aspects of the essay make it hard for a reader to identify with the narrator, however close or far she may be from the real-life woman who wrote her.

But that's not the point.

The point is that the piece really needs to be edited/proofed; that the essay reads like a second draft, not a final product, and shouldn't have been published as such.

The point is that the title, especially to a Hairpin audience, sets audience expectations counter to the attitude and subject matter actually found in this essay; that it sets the reader up for disappointment and anger when she expects a real but light-hearted "LOL DEBT" piece and instead finds a sincere almost-defense of extravagant and undiscriminating spending.

The point is that there's no focus, no lesson, no conclusion to this piece.

The point is that this author self-identifies as a writer, and she chose to write and publish this essay.
Obviously it is hard for an artist to separate herself from her work, especially when the work is of a personal nature, like this essay is. But if the author is going to put her work out there for everyone to see, she has to let it go. The world is full of people with different opinions, different backgrounds, different circumstances; different personal interpretations of her words. This essay doesn't belong to the author anymore, it belongs to the world. Writers have to accept that, to let their work go, in order to have any hope of (emotional) survival in their field.

Posted on November 5, 2013 at 1:50 pm 7

On How My Obsession With Furnishing A Future Put Me Nearly $40,000 In Debt

@Party Falcon Hi Party Falcon!

Posted on November 5, 2013 at 1:16 pm 4

On A Revenge Scenario For Student Loan Borrowers

@kate.m "I thought I could contribute to the world."

This may be the most harmful lie our generation was ever told.

Posted on October 17, 2013 at 10:39 am 3

On Brain Trouble

Oh man, I"m so late to this conversation. I really liked this piece as a personal narrative of a migraineur. There were a lot of things that really struck a chord for me and I like Jennifer's voice. But I think it's worth mentioning that the factual/research parts of this piece are... debatable, at the least.

I completely agree that sufferers of invisible diseases, especially female sufferers, are often treated poorly and met with skepticism--if not straight out disbelief--of the reality of their pain and other symptoms. But saying that migraines are under-researched because so many sufferers are women is inaccurate (obviously this is an important factor! But identifying that ONE factor as THE factor isn't correct). Saying that "many neurologists" didn't believe migraines to be a neurological condition as recently as ten years ago, while probably technically correct (I mean, there are some really shitty doctors out there! Especially the ones who graduated medical school close to half a century ago! A dozen doctors could count as "many."), is misleading. The neurological community has accepted migraines as a neurological condition--albeit a terribly insufficiently understood condition--for many decades. It's also misleading to say that there are so few treatment options. While it's true that the number of treatments which were specifically designed with migraines in mind is practically nil, there are so many prescription treatments (mostly off-label) for migraines! And that's kind of how medical/pharma research works a lot of the time: you find an unanticipated side effect of a drug you designed for a heart condition, which turns out to help a lot of migraine sufferers. That doesn't discount the fact that the cardiac drug then IS a treatment for migraine.

Now, let's be clear: I'm not saying that migraines are easily treatable. I'm not saying that they are well understood. I'm not saying that it doesn't suck an impossible amount to be a migraineur. I speak for a loved one who has suffered from headaches and migraines for a decade, who has been debilitated by the pain and adjacent symptoms, who has found no treatment that can do anything more than slightly dull the unbearable symptoms, whose life has been completely upturned by this suffering, whose potential was essentially erased in the start of adulthood because of these headaches, who has a family history of migraines. We have an acute awareness of what it means to be a migraineur; but we don't think the more "factual" parts of this piece were particularly well-researched or well-presented.

Posted on October 14, 2013 at 10:18 am 0

On Interview with Dr. Susan Robinson, One of the Last Four Doctors in America to Openly Provide Third-Trimester Abortions

@Allie Williams@facebook Yes, a complete lack of compassion. After all, what right does a mere woman have to decide what does or does not inhabit her body? Just because she is a fully grown, living human doesn't mean she gets precedence over the potential human inside her. If she feels it is a parasite, or a constant reminder of a traumatic event, then that's her problem. If she wants it removed, she should learn to bury those feelings like a proper incubator and carry that precious child to term! I'm sure there are loving families just waiting for each unwanted child to be born so they can be adopted and lead happy, healthy lives! That's why there's no more foster care or group homes or orphanages, right?

Physician, heal thyself. Have compassion for the women in these incredibly difficult situations before you accuse them of lacking compassion.

Posted on September 22, 2013 at 2:56 pm 4

On Pretty Women on Bikes

@Judith Slutler
1) Buy a helmet.
2) Put on your helmet.
3) Ride your bike.
4) Don't die/suffer serious injury if you end up in an accident.
5) Give zero fucks about what other people might think, you are still alive and safe.

Posted on August 16, 2013 at 11:49 am 21