Anji
I drink too much and read a lot of historical fiction with anachronistically-spunky female protagonists.
On Not Chasing Amy
I literally said "Ouch" out loud at the bit where your friends finally told you what Amy had done. Gretchen sounds awesome, though, and I'm genuinely glad to know that the story has a happy ending.
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On Who Wouldn't Want to Touch Her Feet?
@stonefruit Honestly, I would kill for a nice vacation with my mom. We've never been on one together, unless you count that time she graciously drove my dumb teenage ass to UNC Chapel Hill to tour the college (which I didn't even get into anyway), and I don't think that it does. How rude and ungrateful can this girl be to someone who is literally giving her the spring break she asked for?!
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On How to Cope With a Break-Up
@Passion Fruit I mean, I don't mind a "Hey, girl, thinking about you, can't wait to see you!" text or call out of the blue, but I'm saying that these ladies were seriously monopolizing all of my time. My previous job was at a call center, and I literally could not spend all my time texting back and forth all day long. Besides, when I got off work at night, the last thing I wanted to do was spend more time talking on the phone. I realized that hey, if you resent having to do this now, and responding less frequently hasn't dropped a big enough hint, you are going to go crazytown bananapants by the time shit is actually serious. I'm also super uncomfortable with how one used to talk literally about putting me on a pedestal and what a goddess I was - after dating for like six weeks.
@okaylindsey@twitter Thanks! You're so nice to say that. I really do think it's just the personality difference between me and said ex-girlfriends. I'm naturally reticent and don't feel the need to keep my lady loves updated on every little thing I'm doing, and they were kind of the polar opposite. I keep telling myself that at least I was kind enough to break it off early, before we got into three-little-words territory. (Because due to a prior relationship in which I got played like a cheap fiddle, I'm deathly terrified of saying "I love you" until I am actually sure. I'm hoping that the right lady will accept this, and would be okay with not hearing until like, our wedding day.)
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On How to Cope With a Break-Up
I'mma be honest here - I'd way rather be dumped than do the dumping, because I am terrible at it. Seriously, I dumped my last two girlfriends with the most obvious lie ever: "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now, sorry!" because I was trying to not be mean and say "YOU ARE SUFFOCATING ME, PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD GET A LIFE OUTSIDE OF ME, YOU ARE THE WORST." Because I don't like hurting people's feelings if they really haven't done anything wrong except be way too into me way too soon.
One of these days, I'm gonna learn how to do this like a grownup. I guess there's always the next girlfriend?
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On Coworking From Afar
@sophi I do, I do! I use gchat too, but AIM is a lot more practical for me because my computer actually remembers to flash the incoming IM window when I have a new one.
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On Coworking From Afar
I'm not a Skyper - unless someone else needs or wants to talk to me and doesn't use any other service - but goddamn am I the ninja mistress of AOL Instant Messenger.
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On Mothers' Day
This was wonderful! Now my makeup is ruined, but damn, it was worth the read.
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On Moms
@PistolPackinMama I think that was pretty sensible. For me it was the opposite - my mom taught at the K-8 Catholic school I attended, so from 7:30 to 2:30, she wasn't mom, she was Mrs. ____. I guess when you grow up with something like that, or your situation, your kids find it totally normal? Obviously we turned out pretty rad. :-)
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On Friday Bargain Bin: What to Do With Your Allowance This Week
@stonefruit @VolcanoMouse Anyone have any luck with the swim dresses? I am a larger lady and also in addition to being self-conscious about my stomach/hips/behind I am also very self-conscious about my thighs. Are they actually adorable, or do they make you look like someone's grandma?