@amateur hour Tastycakes are kind of great, though!
@S. Elizabeth You are killing me with your perfect cute urban life! The corner store near my house is WalMart. :( (Although I guess in WalMart's defense, they do sell eggs, bread, and flowers.)
@Edie W Well, obviously different homes have different rules--some kids are going to be allowed free access to the fridge and others aren't (as I recall, when I was a kid we were allowed to eat anything unless specifically instructed not to). What I was trying to convey is that some things that seem like obvious rules to us (because of rules we have for our kids or our parents had for us) may not be obvious to others. It seems to me like the LW might have been communicating a "make yourself at home" vibe (which the kids took a little too literally because kids aren't great with social nuance) while a) assuming that certain rules were obvious and would be followed, when in fact not every family has such rules and b) not communicating to the parents that a lot of these things were bothering her and feeling resentful inside.
First, I do not have kids, and I have never had friends with kids stay at my house for any extended period of time, so take this with multiple grains of salt.
It seems to me like there are two issues here. One being whether your friends are crappy parents / their kids are hellions or not, and two being what you should do about having these friends at your house. As for part one, it definitely seems like there was some unreasonable behavior on the part of both parents and kids, although I think maybe in other cases your expectations were a bit high (for example, I think most kids are allowed to eat whatever from the fridge at home, and a 9 year old probably doesn't know enough to recognize the difference between a fancy box of truffles and a bag of Rolos). But ultimately whether these kids are unusually bad or all kids are this bad or whatever doesn't really matter--you're not going to be able to change them (either the kids or the parents), because a) these are not your kids, b) people are generally resistant to change, and c) as you mentioned, people tend to get especially defensive when their parenting is criticized.
So, as therapists would say, you have to figure out what YOU are going to do, not what you want other people to do or how you want them to change. I think the best solution is probably going to be that you don't invite people with kids to stay at your house. Given that you say your friends can't afford hotels, I think this means that if you want to see them, you go to where they are (and you stay in a hotel). Probably less stressful all around. When your friends' kids are older, you might reconsider this decision.
@annev6 Oooh, I think Ask A Boss is a brilliant idea.
I say go ahead and move to New City, if it is genuinely a place you want to be (which it sounds like it is), but do not go back to dating your ex when you get there. Set a limit (6 months?) before which you will not consider dating him. If you start dating him as soon as you get there that will have too much of an influence on your circle of friends / experiences / whatever in New City. You want it you be your (singular) place, not your (as a couple) place.
Also, as someone who has done long distance and not-long-distance with the same person, I agree that long distance is hard. But also keep in mind that long distance can be easier in some ways (depending on your and your partner's personality, style of interaction, how annoying his friends are, etc.), and so while getting away from long distance may fix some problems, it may introduce other, previously unforeseen ones.
Also (again; I am not a succinct thinker, apparently), I wouldn't let the fact that you are moving soon keep you from dating someone (or better yet, several someones) in your current city. Let it free you up to date people who seem fun or interesting but maybe not good serious-relationship prospects. That can be a really great way to meet new people and have new experiences without feeling like you not planning for the future right or whatever. As a current old(ish) married lady, I wish I had done more casual dating when I had the chance, rather than breaking up with guys who were fun and interesting as soon as I decided they weren't The One.
I agree, if the mole is bugging you, get it removed. I had one on my neck that I had been self conscious about forever, but had been too scared of needles to get removed (I am a wuss, I know). I finally got it removed a few months ago and I'm glad I did. It did not hurt at all. Be aware, though, that you will probably need to bandage the area for a while (~2 weeks) until the site heals, so maybe don't schedule any big dates for immediately after the removal.
OMG everything. All of my friends are reproducing and having successful careers and sending me Christmas cards to make me aware of these things, whereas I just got a letter from the bank (along with the Christmas cards) saying they are going to add an astronomical sum to my car loan because I don't have insurance, even though I do have insurance, and I can't call them to fix it because it is after 6...