How the hell do we fix this? What do we do?
I feel like the whole fucking deck is rigged, so damn hopeless for good changes. I read about endlessly rising income inequality, about that dude in Miami getting arrested once per week, I see the numbers of unreported sexual assaults, I hear the insane stories from immigrants I know, trying to get here to escape poverty or persecution elsewhere in the world, I watch the news and see Texas practically outlawing abortion and Republican governors refusing federal insurance benefits that would benefit the poor of their States put of a question of ideological purity.
Then I see how we vote, and how we are a Christian Nation when it means we shouldn't let two dudes or two women who love each other raise a child in a stable and financially secure home, yet have no interest in helping the poor or the imprisoned or any of that. It all seems so insane.
Maybe the only upside is that my cohort - straight white dudes - are overwhelmingly the problem, but also rapidly becoming a smaller percentage of the population. I mean, obviously we're not all bad or the same or whatever, but God fucking damn it.
How did things get so fucking sad? How do we get shit right?
I have always been FASCINATED by women who make the claim that this dude is hot. Like, I'm a straight guy, but there are "Oh wow he is hot" that does not surprise me (Lochte, Stringer Bell), almost any other dude in really good shape with a classic square jaw.
Cumberbatch and Jeff Goldblum, though - I can read this website for a million years, and some things which are common to a large number of women I will just never even begin to have any degree of comprehension of.
@Audley - We always made ours in a meat grinder, but I bet a box grater would work too.
Peel all the potatoes and skin 1 onion for every 3 potatoes.
Grind on the loosest die (or grate I guess) 3 potatoes, then 1 onion, then 3 potatoes, then 1 onion, back and forth.
We would always grind them directly into water, so the potato wouldn't oxidize. Then, just mix it all up, grab a latke-ish sized clump, make a ball, press between a clean dishtowel to get the water off, and pan fry.
Simple as heck!
@chickpeas akimbo yeah that is the best idea, and it is also exactly what i'm doing this year. i'm excited to see who is open on seamless tomorrow, and which williamsburg bars have the best 2pm crowd.
@ru_ri - I do a really big friendsgiving every even numbered year (in odd numbered years I just hang out in bars by myself - it sounds kind of depressing, but you end up hearing fascinating stories, and people have a really nice spirit when you talk to strangers) and I'm very much pro-spatchcock.
I saw someone explain once that the middle of your oven is not quite as hot as the edges, so the dark meat (which has a higher temperature to be 'done' than white mean) is on the outside in the hotzone, and the sensitive breast meat is in the cooler zone. Plus, because the whole thing cooks faster, the meat closer to the surface doesn't dry out as much.
As much as you lose that few minutes of cool carving, when you bring a plate full of delicious, super-moist turkey!
I love this. Kathleen & Bikini Kill & Le Tigre were such a huge, huge impact on me, in addition to just fucking rocking. Riot grrrl / zine culture too.
I miss crowded ass NJ VFW halls and church basements and photocopiers, exacto knives, and glue-sticks. I miss hands covered in toner and all that.
But I also miss that fucking energy, and the rebelliousness of it all, and all of us feeling like we were going to actually fuckin' change something.
Riot grrrls, though. So dope. I can't wait till I have a little cousin or niece and buy her a guitar & Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah.
@bureaucrab - So, I'm 31 & that means I didn't have a cellphone until college, and even then, texting / always being online wasn't a constant thing until I was 25 or so. Which means during the first decade of boy/girl to man/woman relations, conversations on the phone needed to happen. Lots and lots of phone conversations.
I hate to admit it & feed the stereotype, but if you added up everything I ever said on all of those calls, eliminated the "yeah?", "oh?", and "oh man, he/she/they did/said WHAT?", it probably wouldn't total up to a half a novella.
I mean, I listened. I honestly enjoyed being on the phone with them, and was happy to have wonderful girls and then women talking on the phone to me when I was (am) a dumb little boy / grown man. We just, like, don't have a lot to say via telephones.
@j-i-a THE SLUG. Is there a word for that humor of race-relations where it's hilarious but only because of the awful?
But I'm glad I'm in charge of nothing. All I could think of when I read this story last night was, my first response: "Fuck, I am so glad I am a straight white guy. I'd be in jail forever for my response if I was subjected to this shit, it is a testament to the awesomeness of human beings that they strive for change instead of just burning everything to the ground."
Followed immediately by: "Dude - the only reason you think of this shit as so inconceivable is that you're a completely boring straight white guy. The only reason you recoil so hard is that you didn't live your whole life used to this shit. The only reason you yourself assume that your individual actions will definitely fix everything is that you look EXACTLY LIKE The Man."
Oh man, it is all the worst. Thank you & Emma & Edith & all of the others for writing & editting this website - I know I'm not the target demographic, but I'm eternally grateful to have somewhere I can go to get the kind of perspectives that are easy for someone like me to completely miss in the same place as one of my favorite sources of plain-old-entertainment.
@leonstj he gets points for oranges. I'm not sure how I feel about plums, even if they are so sweet & delicious.
@jinsher Dude here. I personally might have a really hard time getting down w/ this cuz of insecurities, but I don't think it's sexist to for women to judge men like this, even though I would think so of an app that did the same for women.
My thought on this is, men, unless they are D'Angelo, basically never have their worth-as-a-human reduced to their worth-as-a-romantic-partner. We are at no risk, when you treat a line of us like some sort of buffet of date-going-on & carnal pleasure, of having to live a life in which our #GoodWithHisTongue---AndTalkingTo or #CalienteInTheStreetsSinPicanteInTheSheets makes any difference at anything in our life OTHER THAN our role in the buffet.
EDIT: I am obviously preaching to the choir when i said: "when we judge a woman as a romance/sex partner, it is taken as the sum total of their value. You judge a man as a sexual partner, you judge a man as a sex partner and...that's about it." - I didn't mean it as a grand revelation people aren't aware of, just saying it's why, as a dude, I don't get offended by lulu.