to echo earlier sentiments: i don't get why this is different than shopping at walmart. there are other models (not just indie book stores) available. the way that amazon gets defended by otherwise pro-small-business folks makes me think there is some level of guilt involved. (not just here. i work for a liberal website so i've had this argument a few times before.) if you don't let money and ease govern your other decisions, why is amazon special, despite being shady and ultra-corporate?
@feelings_unicorn aaargh. Not sure if I can articulate why both sides annoy me, but here's my shot. I think that everyone involved thinks Chris Brown is a lost cause. No one is going to be disappointed in him, because we've all pretty much come to the conclusion that he's a terrible person.
1. That said, there is a lot of victim-blaming language in the way people are trying to write about this. I think it's a difficult subject to write about without victim-blaming, but I'm guessing Rihanna's and Chris Brown's choice produced a visceral reaction in just about everyone, so I think it's worth discussing.
2. Rihanna has her own agency. Saying that criticizing Rihanna or being disappointed in her choice is automatically victim blaming takes power away from her. This was half of her choice to make. I think she made the wrong decision.
OK, let see if I can wrap this up in a stupid example. Let say you have a friend who is nearly killed by her boyfriend. He is never punished for it and shows no remorse. It really affected you and your friends and you all hate the guy. They then get back together. (I know this is not a perfect example but whatever, it's not my fault you're not friends with Rihanna.) It's ok for you to discuss your friend's decision with your other friends and express disappointment. You should never transfer the blame onto her, but it's ok for you not to be ok with her decision. No, you aren't in her head, but you can form your own opinion on it.
@Diana Those are amazing! I grew up loving country music too. The Judds are a magical rediscovery when you're in your 20s.
oh, i love first aid kit. i've been listening to tangerine and ghost town on repeat for weeks.
@Danzig! it's my boyfriend. i wish i didn't know what you were talking about.
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