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@Miss Maszkerádi Oh, I love that! From everything I know about him, it really seems like he was a Perfect Human.
It's funny, I knew who he was when I was a kid, but it wasn't until last year when I was doing some reading about the Soviet space program that I just kinda screeched to a halt, staring. Since then, I've been randomly (and often drunkenly) bringing him up in random conversation with pretty much everyone -- "Yes yes that is very interesting HEY LOOK AT THIS PICTURE OF YURI GAGARIN HE WAS CRAZY HOT AND ALSO THE FIRST PERSON IN SPACE AND LOOK AT THAT SMILE WHO HAS A SMILE LIKE THAT."
@TheBelleWitch I haven't quite figured out how to articulate this, but I think that Jared's experience specifically as a gay kid who was explicitly, self-consciously attracted to transgression really shifts and dislocates the lenses on what's okay. Obviously these men who are overtly preying are people who could legally deserve jail time and I could have heard his story from someone who said "I was taken advantage of repeatedly" and I'd have been like "Yes, you were." But that's the really interesting thing to me with all this - you get to tell your story for yourself - and he, understanding fully the nuances and absolutely questionable individuals involved in some of these situations, is claiming his experience in a way that I find really honest and almost radical; and I think, if someone wants to own something, he gets to own it, etc.
@nyikint I still don't know if I should raise my hand
She definitely comes across to me as completely out of touch, but also pretty harmless. Honestly, reading this makes me kind of want to split a pitcher of sangria with her now - she sounds hilarious.
I think there's nothing wrong with wanting the best in life, even if Gwyneth can probably afford to buy the best more often than others.
Also I can't fault her too much - we share the same birthday, and I love her recipe for buttermilk pancakes.
I'm more of a —He knew no haste
And I had put away
My labor and my leisure too,
For His Civility—
type of gal
By Mae on "At what other moment in history would it have been plausible for a serial killer to identify middle-aged white men as his most vulnerable targets?"
@queenofbithynia I'm also getting very tired of journalistic narratives that express surprise and bewilderment that people have relationships outside of nuclear family structures.
By Judith Slutler on "At what other moment in history would it have been plausible for a serial killer to identify middle-aged white men as his most vulnerable targets?"
@Rock and Roll Ken Doll Yeah exactly! It's a great story, but I was actually pleasantly surprised that she acknowledged she'd been coming at it with a prefab "end of men" narrative in mind and then couldn't quite force that connection the way she wanted to. Progress...ish?
I am so thrown off by this part:
'She is a beautiful kid, but she is also sure and determined in a way that is not exactly pretty. Which is fine, because God help me if that girl ends up smiling through her entire life as if she is waitressing or pole-dancing or apologizing for some vague but enormous infraction, like the very fact of her own existence.'
I'm glad that she's sure and determined! But I don't think smiling and being nice immediately leads to being apologetic about your own existence. Can't there be some middle ground?
That being said, from helping to raise one kid to now starting fresh with another one: You can try to teach kids certain things, but in the end, sometimes they just are who they are, no matter what you try to show them and teach them. So good for the mother for recognizing her daughter's personality and loving her just the way she is.
The best way to read Lolita is to replace the cover with that of Pale Fire, and then replace all the pages with the pages from Pale Fire, too. And then read Pale Fire.