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On Boyfriends' Mothers, "Compassion," and Les Misérables

@pixieg agreed! For the first time I am super let down by the Hairpin. Way to build a safe space and then blow the door off. There is a difference between tough love and pointing and laughing at people.

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 3:35 pm 22

On Former Desires

@JessicaLovejoy I did the same thing. I don't think I ever fooled anyone.

Posted on May 25, 2012 at 2:16 pm 0

On Former Desires

I relate to Alix. Growing up with a feminist CEO mother I dreamt of climbing the ladder and making my mark on the world, rocking power suits in my corner office. After trying to swim up that stream for five years I am learning that I actually care more about what happens from 5-9 than 9-5.

Also, a belly-button ring.

Posted on May 25, 2012 at 2:11 pm 6

On Rye Rye's "Boom Boom" Video Video

I am thankful for this blog for introducing me to oh so many things, but Rye Rye may be at the top of this list.

Posted on March 22, 2012 at 2:47 pm 1

On Snobs, Erotica Decoder Rings, and the New-Relationship Gift

@kayjay "Talking is good. Talk about things. Talk about things forever."

Completely right on.

Posted on December 9, 2011 at 4:46 pm 1

On Snobs, Erotica Decoder Rings, and the New-Relationship Gift

LW2: I agree with A Dude whole heartedly. My boyfriend, who is truly wonderful (but human) who I love very much, admitted to me one year into our relationship that he had hooked up with an ex 6 months in. He was a child, afraid of commitment and had gone a bit too far with substance abuse. When he told me I was actually planning on breaking up with him because he had been growing more and more insular, a sure sign we were loosing our spark. His confession was met with much yelling, storming out and sleepless nights but the genuine regret in his eyes, and my own gut, told me it was worth a second chance. Recovery from such experience is a slow process, trust builds little by little and there are days when one or both of you wants to quit. The images in your head become less frequent by the day. Today I am far less tortured by it than my significant other who can't talk about it without crying and still looks at me with sorry eyes fro.
m time to time.

All that said and done it has most assuredly strengthened the couple we have become. There is an honesty and openness that never existed before, we have learned more about each other (and ourselves) than may have ever come into light otherwise. We now know the extent of how much we care and our commitment to each other. I trust him one million times more today than I did 2 years ago. I wouldn't take it back if I could.

It isn't easy, it is a scar your relationship will always wear and it is sure not worth the energy if the relationship is not worth saving. Only you can know if you are living in denial so I urge you to take a good look inside before you truly choose to stay. Good luck!

Posted on December 9, 2011 at 3:02 pm 6