By discombobulated on #DudeCanCook #EpicSmile #RatingMenWithHashtags

"When you Google a guy, you don’t want to know if he voted Republican or what he wrote a paper about in college,” Ms. Chong said. “You want to know if mothers like him. Does he have good manners? Is he sweet?”

EXCUSE YOU, I do want to know if he votes Republican, that shit is not okay.

Posted on November 21, 2013 at 10:50 am 16

By George Templeton Strong on Pope Francis Kissing the Disfigured Man

This is what you get when the Cardinals elect a Jesuit. One century they're fomenting the Inquisition; the next thing you know they're like "can we please stop harping on ladybits and loving couples who don't look like Adam and Eve and show some compassion and HUMAN DECENCY FFS?"

Posted on November 8, 2013 at 2:26 pm 2

By victorian rose on The Things We Hide

Fuck you Geoffrey.

Posted on September 23, 2013 at 3:11 pm 28

By I'm Right on Top of that, Rose on I Don't Care, I Can't Stop, and I Love It: Miley Cyrus and Ironic Decadence

Maybe I'm just getting too old to care, but I'm on the side of the fence that feels disheartened because all the news is about Miley's performance, and there's some real shit going on that we should actually care about. For example, there is a former teacher in Montana who got sentenced to 30 days in jail for raping a 14-year-old student, who killed herself after the rapes. His attorney argued jail time was unnecessary because he's been punished enough, because society started treating him badly after learning of his rapist ways. And the judge said the dead girl was partly responsible for the sex because she was "older than her chronological years."

This to me is more important than Miley Cyrus, but alas, here we are.

For reference: http://billingsgazette.com/news/local/crime-and-courts/former-senior-high-teacher-gets-days-for-rape-of-student/article_b1f84190-ef23-5868-8799-b779c0421dc1.html

Posted on August 27, 2013 at 2:13 pm 16

By Lily Rowan on I Don't Care, I Can't Stop, and I Love It: Miley Cyrus and Ironic Decadence

I'm Jay-Z's age, not Miley's, so I do tend to fall on the "Oh honey, no" side of things. Am I too old and tired to be outraged? Possibly.

Posted on August 27, 2013 at 1:04 pm 13

By Linette on Interview With My Mom, One Who Stayed Home

Your mom. Seems. Awesome.

Posted on August 9, 2013 at 1:37 pm 18

By thelittledeath on "I don’t want her to wear her good nature like a gemstone, her body like an ornament"

@mabellegueule - It was this: "But when strangers talk to her, she is like, “Whatever.” She looks away, scowling. She does not smile or encourage."

I'm not saying she should put up with nonsense from strangers, but not even giving them a chance seems...harsh. It's an incredibly fine line I'm trying to speak of. Give strangers at least one chance, and if they screw up, then sure, turn away and dismiss them. You want a child to have a healthy sense of self, and self-assurance, but if you let them dismiss everyone that they don't immediately identify with, they are going to be living in a very small and narrow world. (I'm not even gonna talk about the creepy old dudes, I think we're all in agreement with that being bad.)

Posted on August 5, 2013 at 11:48 am 8

By PomPom on "I don’t want her to wear her good nature like a gemstone, her body like an ornament"

I find this article baffling and, honestly, really sad. This little girl "will not smile at you unless either she is genuinely glad to see you or you’re telling her a joke that has something scatological for a punch line" and "when strangers talk to her... [s]he looks away, scowling." That's a far cry from her resisting socialization to be *always* nice as some kind of emblem of femininity, as well as a far cry from opting not to "smile at the frat boy who's raping you." Is it really that hard to teach the lesson that being nice to everyone, including strangers, is a laudable way to live as a human being on this planet, but that it's not "not nice" to assert boundaries when someone is making you uncomfortable, etc.

Posted on August 5, 2013 at 11:46 am 8

By thelittledeath on "I don’t want her to wear her good nature like a gemstone, her body like an ornament"

I've been avoiding the comments on other sites about this article, because of all of the personal attacks and nastiness. This is a safer place, so I'll say my piece. I understand what she's trying to do, and she makes a point to explain the motivations. And it is a worthy goal - girls shouldn't have to be "nice" to be accepted. I only wish that I hadn't been so brainwashed with niceness as a kid. That being said, raising an asshole is not doing her daughter any favors. Manners and reflective auto-niceness are not the same.

Posted on August 5, 2013 at 11:11 am 9

By Lili B. on Friday Open Thread

@meetapossum Augh I am super jealous! Also thrilled that I have a reason to use this:

Posted on August 2, 2013 at 3:49 pm 5