By Sgt. Exposition on Befriending Your Best Friend's Girlfriend and Resisting the "One True Sex Act"
@hedgehogerie I'm going to disagree (somewhat) with your disagreement. While I think such conversations can be helpful and are important, they are premised (at a certain level) on the person who initiates them to be infinitely giving, patient, and understanding--which can then just encourage LW3's parents to up the pressure. As a trans person with parents who use some of the behaviors described on me, not laying out boundaries and limiting contact instead encouraged people (my mother in particular) to use me as a dumping ground for her feelings about my transition. Without clear boundaries, including not talking about certain things, she felt is was okay to wrap me up in a blanket of guilt and acrimony and hope (in vain) that it would smother my desire to transition.
Like I said, I don't disagree entirely, but I do think in some cases action up to ceasing/limiting contact can be called for when it seems like nothing else works.
@MaryJReno my roomate's [NAME??] half-sister [IS FATHER REMARRIED OR MOTHER? MAY BE GOOD OPPORTUNITY TO TALK ABOUT WORK-LIFE BALANCE] makes $74/hour [IS THIS CONFIRMED] on the computer [WHAT MODEL? NEW COMPUTER? PROBABLY MAC AIR??]. She has been fired from work [WHY WAS SHE FIRED? DETAILS] for five months ["FUNEMPLOYED" MAYBE] but last month her paycheck was $21376 [PAID EVERY MONTH? BIWEEKLY?] just working on the computer for a few hours [PER DAY? IS SHE A WEBCAM GIRL???? DON'T BURY THIS LEDE]. you could look here WWW.Ring77.COm [WE NEED A BETTER LOOKING URL]
@garli I thought she meant it like "we make enough money that we don't need to fight crowds to get a deal, we'll just pay more for the convenience of less hassled shopping."
By OhMarie on Mmmm, Human Cheese
This is disgusting, but I actually had a dream about this once. A friend of mine wanted to make cheese flavored like her toddler as a kind of keepsake? The cheese making process involved the kid sleeping in a vat of some goo, Matrix style.
(Then the kid woke up and I didn't know what to do so I sent my husband to the library to get a book about taking care of babies, but he came back with a pamphlet trying to convince pregnant teenagers to not get abortions and I threw it at him.)
By melmuu on Poetry: A Love Story
LOVE this! Thank you for writing this. So happy to see Li-Young Lee pop up at the end, too. He was one of the first poets I fell in love with. The City In Which I Love You is so, so good.
I can never be sad that I do not get to socialise in the exalted circles of those who get to be entrepreneurs in the exciting new media and chill on private islands and go to fancy parties with fashionistas and aristos, as clearly to join these exalted circles one has to be an absolute fucking sociopath.
By iceberg on Friday Open Thread
This week with the BBs:
You haven't seen cute until you've watched three toddlers sharing Nutella toast by taking bites and passing it around. Gently admonishing each other not to drop it and politely asking for their turn. Ridiculous.
Adventures in Raising Feminists:
"Diva, girls can do anything boys can do. You can do anything you want."
"... I want wee-wee."
Started wearing dangly earrings again, now that the kids are older. Diva's reaction: "Ooh your earrings pretty! I want earrings like you mama!" Dimples, apparently interpreting the invitation to look at my earrings as a threat to forcibly pierce her ears, tearfully: "I no want holes!"
"After a national outcry, 54-year-old Ted Wafer has finally been charged for shooting Renisha McBride"
I find this sentence somewhat insulting. It seems to assume that minus a national outcry Kym Worthy the Wayne County Prosecutor would not have brought charges. I believe this to be far from the truth. In point of fact even the family of Renisha McBride as well as local community leaders in Detroit such as National Action Network Detroit Chapter president Charles E. Williams II expressed both before and in the case of Rev. Williams after the announcement of charges that they had the utmost trust in Kym Worthy to do what she needed to do to insure not just charges but a conviction in this case.
Kym Worthy is a hero. Her record, if anyone cares to read up on it, speaks for itself. She made her name in the early 90s SUCCESSFULLY prosecuting two white Detroit police officers in the beating death of Malice Green. She has more recently attempted to clear the enormous backlog of rape cases in the city of Detroit. Unfortunately her budget has been dramatically slashed in recent years. Perhaps you've heard but Wayne County (Detroit in particular) is having a bit of a cash flow issue. Earlier this week she testified before Wayne County Commission Public Safety Committee asking for more money to be allotted to her department which has been cut to the BONE. She said the typical time frame of issuing warrants is 2-3 weeks. She said there were currently "a backlog of 180 child abuse arrest warrants, 75 child sex abuse warrants and 40 homicide warrants." She has been BATTLING to get more money for her office for years now.
Today we moved one step closer to getting justice for Renisha. I'm glad and I'm glad to have Kym Worthy helming this case.
By Poubelle on The Rob Ford Pie
As an Illinois resident (prison seems to be our governors' retirement plan), I would just like to thank Toronto for making me feel just a tiny notch better about our politicians.
And then I'm like, "wait, is smoking crack really any dumber than trying to sell the president-elect's senate seat over the phone?" Because I'm really not sure on the answer to that. I'm leaning towards "crack is less whack."
@j-i-a Yeah, when my wife did a high school exchange in Australia she lived with a Christian-but-not-crazy family that had at least one foreign adopted child and everything worked out great. I think this is what makes it so hard to argue about international adoption: lots of people know someone (or ARE someone) that is the successful product of such an adoption and grew up in a loving home. So any restrictions aimed at curbing the bad adoptions could also end up hurting children who would've gone on to experience a much better life.
I still think an ultra-liberal immigration policy and generous foreign aid is the best solution so it's too bad that that's obviously a political nonstarter.