In the Desert is my favorite poem. I really relate to it. So much. "In the desert / I saw a creature, naked, bestial, / Who, squatting upon the ground, / Held his heart in his hands, / And ate of it. / I said: "Is it good, friend?" / "It is bitter—bitter," he answered; / "But I like it / Because it is bitter, / And because it is my heart." /

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@chrysopoeia I went through SUCH a k drama phase a couple years ago! Everyone raves about Boys Over Flowers/Boys Before Flowers, so maybe check that out (I was annoyed by the main girl). I tended to like the more zany comedy stuff like You're Beautiful and Personal Taste. My Lovely Sam Soon and Princess Hours are also classics.

Posted on August 2, 2013 at 7:04 pm 0

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@Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that) So, it's Monday, but I wanted to comment on this based on my personal experience with this type of person. The way you are being treated is not okay, and obviously not okay with you. You are tired of it, and it is hurtful.

This is exactly what you should say to your friends. It doesn't need to be some dramatic confrontation, just tell them the truth, and cite a few recent examples. They will do their best to deflect, or tell you you are being too sensitive etc. Just calmly restate that it is not okay and that it hurts you. If they do not care, or still try to ignore the issue... this is really scary, but it may just be time for new friends.

It terms of when it is a sibling: same deal. Calmly confronting people with the truth is hard, but it is worth it. People 9 times out of 10 will respond, and maybe even realize what they have been doing and change. Because I am assuming you can't just drop your sibling, it may be a matter of you telling them how you feel and waiting it out. Keep trying with them, and the next time they blow you off or act like a jerk, tell them. Wash, rinse, repeat. If nothing changes, maybe consider that the relationship you want with your sibling simply isn't in the cards, and focus your energy on the rewarding relationships in your life!

Posted on July 15, 2013 at 1:01 pm 0

On Are Gods Boring?: Wanting More From Yeezus

Yes, this exactly! After going back over Kanye's music, you really see this shift over time toward... I don't know, this weird intense playacting? He is so genuine and heartfelt up through 808s. I don't know if the shift came with Donda's passing, but now he is like a shadow of himself.

Even on Watch the Throne I remember for example listening to No Church in the Wild and feeling like Jay was trying to say something, and Ye was just going through the motions about cars and some girl in a club... what does that have to do with Frank Ocean's hook:

"Human beings in a mob
What's a mob to a king?
What's a king to a God?
What's a God to a non-believer,
who don't believe in anything?"

Posted on June 21, 2013 at 1:02 pm 3

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@angelinha I don't really have much advice, but I'm the type of person that is veeery slow to warm and doesn't form bonds easily, almost to the point where I thought I was broken or something! Umm, I guess when I realized I wasn't "broken" was when I found someone I actually wanted to be around, and make an effort for! So I guess the way you tell the difference is that you don't want to bolt. I mean, despite your confusion you decided to ask here about how to keep this new person, right?

Sorry, this is probably not helpful! Have you ever been or are you in therapy? Talking this stuff out with someone who knows what they are doing sounds like a good start.

Posted on June 14, 2013 at 4:07 pm 1

On Joseph Gordon-Levitt's Don Jon: You're Cute. I Like You.

When I first heard about this, I so hoped it wouldn't be terrible. And it looks not terrible!!

Posted on May 24, 2013 at 6:12 pm 0

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@callie-oop So I'm sure there may be factors not covered in your vent, but... have you thought about un-friending him? I've started just getting rid of people (on Facebook) that make me rage/annoyed/want to punch something and it is doing wonders!

Posted on May 24, 2013 at 6:08 pm 2

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@victorian rose I had a really similar situation with an OKCupid guy, and so one night at dinner I just said: "Hey, are you aware that you never initiate? What's up with that?"

He was like "Whaaaa? I thought this is how you wanted things to be/I wasn't sure if you liked me." So, it seemed like a simple communication issue. He said he'd try to initiate more.

Sadly, he kept slacking and making me do all the work, so I peaced out. Maybe you can deal with that dynamic, but constantly feeling unwanted is a dealbreaker for me.

Posted on April 9, 2013 at 1:26 pm 0

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@Miss Maszkerádi So, it's Tuesday, but I am just catching up on the FOT and thought I'd respond to #3 since I am one of the hoards that is SO excited.

I say read the books (or, just the first book "A Game of Thrones" to start). Most of the violence/sex in the show is also in the books, so it will be a good way for you to feel out if you are comfortable with it. The show has a fare amount of "sexposition" that some feel is kind of skeevy, but I find that it doesn't really seem out of place since whores/brothels are mentioned in the books on the regular.

The first season is really close in plot to the first book, where the second and now third diverge more. I am getting my friends to read them all first and then watch the show because of potential spoilers (they add parts of the later books into earlier seasons of the show), but to start read the first book and watch season 1!

This got kind of long... did I mention SO EXCITED?!

Posted on April 9, 2013 at 1:15 pm 0

On Ask an Adopted Person

@piekin Right? ... She spends the entire interview talking about how great everything turned out, and how much she loves her adopted parents, and then this?

I guess her parents divorce and the fact that her dad may have resented her mom may be the reason for her attitude toward adoption :/

Posted on April 3, 2013 at 3:03 pm 1

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@miss buenos aires That is such a bummer! I don't have any tips, except my friend had it and everything turned out a-okay, so try not to worry!

Also, maybe treat yourself to some of your favorite extravagant healthy treats that would be on plan? It's still your birthday!

Posted on March 15, 2013 at 7:09 pm 0