@Gilgongo I found the opposite - like the guys thought all they had to do was unzip and I was going to start cumming. There was zero effort put into foreplay or any of the rest of sex. I guess, like everything else, it's hard to generalize :)
I know where my cervix is but we don't have an interactive relationship. I learned when I got my IUD in that I have a vagovasal reaction, which means I want to barf/pass out when people get all up in my business. I just thought everyone was nauseous after pap smears/rough sex/tampon insertion...nope! It's just me! And the rest of the like 10% of the population. So I hang out with my Luna pads like a happy non-barfing hippie.
Wait, so if I let somebody who gets cold sores (but doesn't necessarily have one at the time) go down on me, I have a 13-18% chance of getting herpes (because they're shedding 13-18% of the time)? How in the hell am I supposed to not get herpes? Dental dams for life?
I drink echinacea tea because I believe something that tastes that awful when you burp it back up has to work. And then I figure either it works because it works or because I believe it works, and either way, the cold is avoided or pretty low-key and short.
I also believe in those gummy Airborne-esque supplements you can only find at CVS, but that is again because either they work or I believe they work, and they are DELICIOUS.
@large__marge Yes! My dad, who is not superstitious at all, told me about this one, so I took it extra-seriously as a kid and still do it now when I think about it. The other piece of it for me is saying "hare, hare" as the last thing you say on the last night of the month.
@stonefruit I did a ctrl-F on Bellairs to make sure someone else had said it. Creepy shit, all of it. Although that is what kicked off my love affair for Edward Gorey, so I appreciate that, but I still have weird dark dreams (not quite nightmares) that can directly be tied to, say, the Curse of the Blue Figurine.
@sophia_h @sophia_h I've always hated tampons and having stuff up inside me generally (exemptions made for sex) and so I've been using Luna Pads for years now. I bought four pads and four liners, and I just wear a pad with liner, take the liner out and wear just the pad, then switch. My periods are pretty light and short (shout out to Mirena for that one) so honestly most months I don't even make it through my permutation of eight cloth pads.
But yes, agree with the wise person above about BLACK. Also, flannel in the summer is a little bit unpleasant/sticky. Also also, if you're going to do a lot of walking I'd think very hard, I find my cloth pads tend to migrate up the back of my undies which is definitely uncomfortable and possibly messy.
That said, I bought the pads five years ago and they're still going strong. I think they're a good investment.
@Nicole Cliffe OMG one of my favorites. Diana Wynne Jones is a huge part of why I am as esoterically weird as I am today.
@irma la douce OMG 40s hosiery!!! *dies* That's awesome.
The clips aren't actually nearly as bad as they look and I'm sure there's a youtube tutorial about how exactly they function. That'd be hard to describe in just text.
I do find that the back left garter (I'm right-handed) is always the trickiest for me, but even that gets better with practice.
Garters for everyone! The plus side of this is that whoever takes off your skirt/pants is probably NOT expecting to see garters and stockings and so they will consensually ravish you like whoa once they pick their tongue up off the floor. (I'm in support of the plural "they," obvs)