@Urwelt Whoa. Never heard it put that way. Brilliant!
Thank you all for your kind words. It's good to know the Commentariat has got my back.
@PomoFrannyGlass Hah, yes. That sounds like an accurate description thus far. The stages are definitely not distinct and in any order.
Hey, all. Does anyone have any good advice or guidance for dealing with grief? My best friend died suddenly and unexpectedly last week, the day before we were supposed to start grad school again together, and shortly after he returned from being on leave for eight months. It is my first time losing someone close to me, and it is a huge loss in every way. Even though we were only friends for a year and a half, we were extremely close and in frequent contact the eight months he was gone. Our friendship was unlike any other I have had -- not that it was necessarily better, but we had deep commonalities that I truly do not expect to find again in someone else. Also, we were planning to essentially operate as partners in our chosen careers (and my chosen career is my LIFE), so I am feeling a little lost in that respect as well.
I've already met with my school's administration about lightening my load significantly this semester, since this first week of classes was rather excruciating. So far, I've been surrounding myself with friends. Surprisingly, I have been holding it together fairly well, but I know that that is mostly because it doesn't feel real right now. I am also set up for grief counseling, so I will be getting that sort of help.
But, in the meantime, any advice, guidance, or stories of shared experience from my favorite people on the internet would be much appreciated. Thanks.
Hah! On New Year's Eve, I was getting ready to meet up with a cute couple with a very strong possibility of a three way when I stubbed my toe hard on my coffee table and broke it.
So, NYE in the emergency room with my mom! 2013 better improve from here.
This is at SF State, right?? I loved keeping up with the graffiti wars in the humanities building bathrooms. Thanks for keeping me updated after graduation!
Welcome to the first time lady-darters club. We certainly seem to be expanding on here lately.
Also, orgasm misers? THE WORST. That's one thing that excites me about dating women, actually. I figure that kind of thing is much more rare. Plus, almost all of them have a basic understanding of how lady parts work, which I find rather useful in the bedroom.
TravelZoo is a great aggregator, and STAtravel.com has great deals on international flights if you are a student and/or under 26.
@The Frozen Head of Dorothy Zbornak
And unfortunately there was no sensual shampooing to speak of, so I guess I can't assume that she is secretly in love with me and collecting my hair scraps to fill the void between my monthly visits.
@everyone: Thanks so much for sharing! It is definitely good to know I am not alone.
The fun part of this whole process for me is that I keep getting surprised by my own evolution. Quite timely, actually: I just got a haircut about 5 minutes ago. I went to the hairdresser that I've been going to for almost a year now. I swear, I've never even given the woman a sideways glance, but when I walked in there today I was suddenly struck at how crazy hot she is. Somehow I hadn't even noticed before, but today it seemed obvious and super distracting. I was alternating between admiring her and internally laughing at myself throughout the haircut.
Sexuality is weird, folks.