@Cat named Virtute Me too. (struggle with being thought of as sexual). And I'm sort of built like Christina Hendricks, so it's doubly weird. I know people who look like, well, virgins and yet they have a rich and storied sex life. I'm always sort of jealous of the people who are all "I can't believe how many losers I slept with in my 20s! UGH! Thank GOD that's over with!" I'm 40 and I've slept with 4 people. Two of them, I ended up marrying! (separately, of course). It's ridiculous to feel shame over *only* having slept with 4 people, but there it is. I'm very happily married now, but I wish I had that wiring to have been able to sleep around a bit first.
Just wanted to say: this one was my favorite. I love her. Other than the parents (mine were 60s hippies who were fairly open about sex. I've always suspected it was the people who's parents repressed them had the best sex. Rebel sex. But apparently not), I related to this BIG time! I don't usually read stuff like this and want to be their friend, but she completely rocks.
I kept picturing her as a sort of virgin Bridget Jones ;)
I really really wish this series was around when I was a 20 year old virgin who felt like the biggest freak in all of existence. I think I write that in the comments after all these interviews, heh.
@PatatasBravas I thought it was an absolutely brilliant line, actually. I felt exactly the same way when I was a 20 year old virgin.
@ThatWench Cool. I'll try the Frangelico. I'm not sure how I function without vanilla extract! I somehow manage to get through my life, though ;)
@Cat named Virtute Thanks guys. I don't have ANY extracts. For booze, I have scotch (Glenmorangie), the aforementioned Frangelico, and Patron Silver tequila. Oh! I think I have some honey-infused scotch, too. Maybe that would work?
I can't believe I actually have *almost* all of the ingredients for this! Um, what would happen if I made it without vanilla? Could I replace it with something? Like Frangelico?
(I am not a cook so I don't know about these things)
Quick name drop. Tracy Chapman babysat me a few times when I was a kid (8 or 9). My parents were resident directors at Tufts University and would hire random students to babysit me. I like to think she & I jammed on our acoustic guitars together (I actually had one!), but I have no memory of her.
After "Fast Car" came out, I was sitting in the car with my dad listening to it (I was probably 16 or so) and he stunned me with "Did you know the person who sings this was your babysitter?"
@PatatasBravas Didn't mean to sound smirky or condescending. I've heard a TON of "I was pressured into having a kid and then regretted it" stories. But, you know, it might have been my husband who sent them to me back when I was "nagging" him to have a baby.
The back-story is that neither of us particularly wanted kids. I accidentally got pregnant and although I'm pro-choice, I just couldn't have an abortion. My husband wanted me to. We had a rough couple of weeks and back-and-forth. Therapy. He "came around" and eventually became even more excited about having a baby than I was. At almost 6 months, I had a stillbirth and almost died myself. We were both very traumatized by this. I reacted by desperately wanting another baby to "replace" the one we had lost. My husband's reaction was "No, the F$&*ck, WAY!" I became very depressed. We fought/discussed/etc... about it and he eventually gave in. Took me 2 more years to get pregnant. He would occasionally remind me that it was "all my idea" to have our second baby. Right up until I gave birth. It was a very rough several years, so the fact that it all "worked out" so well is a constant shock to me. It's probably not typical.
The scariest thing about having kids, to me, is that you kind of never know how you're going to react. You can be one of those "I've always wanted kids!" people and then resent your kids. And you can be an "I'm not particularly maternal" type, have a kid, and have it be the greatest thing ever. I've heard of both happening.
@hahahaha, ja. It's funny. My husband & I got a puppy as sort of practice for having kids. She was so awful that it clinched not having kids for us. I felt such rage towards her, at times, that I thought I could never have a kid. How could I when I couldn't even deal with a dog? (important note: I've never hurt our dog or anything like that. Just been really mad at her) Cut to about 7 years later (with lots of various things happening in the meantime). My daughter is 3. I swear to god, she's (way) easier to deal with than our damned dog. You know how that woman in the article feels about her kids? I kind of feel that way about our dog. I've never felt anger/rage towards my daughter the way I have about my dog. Maybe I'm just not a dog person.
I totally pressured my husband into having a kid. He did NOT want kids, and I pretty much forced the issue. (Quick note: he was on board with my getting pregnant, but felt very pressured into it. It's a LONG story and I'm not as awful as this makes me seem. I hope.)
Our daughter (who's 3 now) is the love of his life. I mean, seriously... it's ridiculous. He's thanked me, over and over, for "making him" have her with me. She's the best thing that's every happened to us.
This is PROBABLY not typical, so I don't really recommend it. But there are so many stories about people being talked into having kids and then resenting it. I thought I'd share my opposite experience.