@mc coolfriend We named our daughter a completely different last name. (My husband & I were both planning on changing our last name to the same as our daughter's, but procrastinated until she was around a year old). There was ONE time, at the airport, that the security guy gave us shit about our daughter having a different last name. Bizarre.
Also, when you get a divorce, you can easily change your last name to whatever you want. ONLY IF YOU'RE A WOMAN, though. If you're a man, you have to go through the whole "legal name change" thing with taking out ads in the paper & stuff.
My first marriage, my husband & I combined our last names. I kept my last (maiden, which I had changed back to) name when I married my current husband, but when we had a kid, we all wanted the same last name. We each didn't particularly like the other's, heh, so we just picked a completely different one and had it legally changed. There was a period of time before we changed our name (we procrastinated) and our daughter had a totally different last name than us.
I have a weird history of changing my name, and so does my husband. I was born with a last name that was a shortened version of my bio dad's (very ethnic) name. Then, when I was 12, I changed it to my mom's maiden name (hated my last name that no one could pronounce). Then the combo of my husband & my last name. And now with the made up one. So I've had 4 last names.
My husband was born with his bio dad's last name. Then it was changed to his step dad's name when he was a baby. Then he changed it to a completely made up name in his 20s (didn't get along with his step dad and didn't want his name) and now he has the one he made up with me. So he's had 3 last names.
Weird, huh. The importance people put on names. I kind of think it's all bullshit. I like what we did with picking a new last name when we became a family.
At my (first) wedding, I had my bridesmaids rent "female" tuxes (it was like a tuxedo jacket, tailored for a woman, and a long skirt w/ a slit up the side). We all went out and picked out a shirt they liked to wear under it. They looked amazing (they all LOVED how sexy the tuxes were) and it was way cheaper than buying something. That's my recommendation.
Also, I just found this: http://jezebel.com/5500252/when-youre-the-ellen-where-do-you-get-the-tux
And THIS is why group sex fantasies will stay group sex fantasies. I'm glad the author had a good time, but the thought of blowing a bunch of different guys and then having to get myself off is my idea of a nightmare.
It seemed like she just went to service a bunch of men. And, again, that's FINE if that's what turns her on. In my idle "I have sex with two or men" thoughts/fantasies, it's the exact opposite.
I'm curious if women go there and are all "You do stuff to ME," and then walk away leaving the guy un-orgasmed.
I found this heartbreaking & inspiring.
In high school, my english teacher (in a non-religious, fairly urban/suburban area. Public school. This was the late 80s) found out that someone was coming to do a presentation about AIDS and he said (in front of the class) "Ugh, we don't want these faggots coming here giving us AIDS!"
And, as shy as I was, I called him on it. I couldn't believe he'd said that, out loud, to a bunch of high school kids (some of them who were probably gay). I was then known as "The Dyke" by the students (even people I didn't know would point me out) for about a year and "That girl who likes gay people."
As completely horrible as it was, I can't even imagine what it would have been like if I actually HAD been gay & trying to hide it. The english teacher later, at the end of the year, told me I had broadened his mind and made him think before he spoke, so... that's good, I guess.
I'm so happy to learn I'm not the only one who has their UPS guy hate them, heh. Mine keeps making passive-aggresive remarks like "You sure do get a lot of packages!"
Yes I do non-hot UPS man. Yes I do.
On Teeth Dreams
I have teeth-falling-out dreams, too. Have ever since I was a teenager (I'm 41 now). They often turn into lucid dreams now because I'm so used to them that I realize I'm dreaming during it.
A couple of years ago, I tried opening a nail polish bottle with my back teeth (REALLY REALLY STUPID!), and I felt part of my back tooth snap off from the rest. I sat there in absolute shock and was completely convinced I was dreaming. All day & the next until I could get to the dentist, I had to keep reminding myself that I wasn't in some sort of horrible nightmare that I was going to wake up from. (I ended up getting a cap for it)
I have another similar dream where I'm chewing gum, and I'm trying to get it out of my mouth, but it's stuck to my back teeth... plus there's suddenly a lot. I spend hours and hours trying to get that gum out of my mouth. One time, I was making out with John Cusack (in my dream) when this happened. I was pissed!
I loved this. It even made me cry, for some reason.
@cmf406 I lost my baby a couple of weeks before my shower, and I disagree. I don't believe in "bad luck."
Getting reminders from Babies R Us about my baby shower registry for months/years afterwards really really sucked, though. And I know it was hard for my mom, who had already bought some (non-returnable) baby stuff.
Still, when I got pregnant a few years after that, I had a shower and was really grateful for all the stuff I got to get me started on my new life with my new baby.
(this time I did not register anywhere, however)
I was not aware that showers still happened like this! It's 2014... not 1950!
At ours, there were men & women. My husband & I opened the presents together. It was fun!
I went to one a few weeks ago. They insisted on no presents and just a party to celebrate their soon-to-be baby. Men & women were there. We all had a blast!
There was nothing like you describe, above, at either one. I guess it just depends on your group of friends. (I know you can't choose your co-workers)