On Gems of Tucson

Alexandrites aren't scams but good ones are rare these days and synthetics are ubiquitous. I also love chrysoberyl, their less expensive, less well-known, non-color changing yellow cousin. They can be truly kryptonite colored: http://www.pricescope.com/forum/files/6-28-12jeff_schryso2.jpg

(The Colored Gem forum on Pricescope is my not-so-secret passion)

Posted on March 18, 2013 at 1:50 pm 0

On Leaving the Girl

@Emby Ehhhh don't worry: these people aren't actually cool. The bumper stickers are the tip-off... along with, um, everything else. This more drama club/goths in hot weather than anything actually glamorous and cool.

Posted on March 15, 2013 at 9:42 pm 0

On Friday Bargain Bin Presents: Presents

@Reginal T. Squirge I thought that was Tyler the Creator in the cap next to Mary and then Kanye white drapey hood? But no TI is kinda a bummer. Unless Pharell is TI? But lack of Little Wayne would seem to support your theory. So who is Tyler, then?

Posted on February 8, 2013 at 6:21 pm 0

On "Texts or calls often and promptly"

Jane, you did a great job with this. It's great. Such good advice for the youngins and well-written and funny and smart to boot!

Another angle for anyone else dealing with this: For some reason-- could be my independent lady mom, could be my moon in capricorn and venus in virgo-- my brain architecture was built to be incredibly distrusting of my own romantic impulses. I really overcompensated and practically avoided dudes I thought were supersexy and sought out those I thought, from a rational perspective, were "good catches." As a result, I dated more than a few dudes who really should have stayed friends. Many of these dude were awesome, but the relationships, lacking any real spark whatsoever, were frustrating.

Now, I am dating a guy who I am truly head-over-heels for. It wasn't necessarily LAF, but when it hit me, it hit me HARD. It was actually difficult to let myself go for, be vulnerable to those feelings. I also didn't have very good crush management skills because I hadn't really been practicing them for twenty-some-odd years, so I just didn't even know how to cope.

Turns out-- lucky me!-- that he is also a wonderful human being, not at all a hot jerk. But I might never have known that if I'd run away in terror. It took a lot of, like, bravery.

So, while I do think it's really important to train your heart, I also think it's important to let it run a little wild sometimes. Sometimes the latter is more closely aligned with smart Jane's therapist axiom, "It is never weak to ask for what you need," even if you are asking yourself.

Posted on February 5, 2013 at 1:59 pm 2

On Beauty Q&A: Remember Crystal Gayle?

achewood made me like my own breasts more. boob men!

Posted on January 16, 2013 at 9:52 pm 0

On Long Distances, "Terribleness," and the Skin-Crawly Feeling

@Mae RIGHT? I didn't know it was really REALLY a thing! Can we get an MTV True Life: I went to British Public School already?

Posted on January 11, 2013 at 3:29 pm 1

On 11 Facts About Victoria Grayson's Calligraphy-Covered Fabric Throne

That's Madeleine Stowe? I thought it was, like, Leighton Meester.

Posted on January 9, 2013 at 4:37 pm 0

On Scandals of Classic Hollywood: The Most Wicked Face of Theda Bara

This is great. Theda Bara is great.
Now I am going to talk about something that annoys me:
I feel like there is a thing where, in late adolescence, a certain kind of person (females, but not always just) goes through a sexy orientalist phase. It usually comes right after a Holly Golightly phase. Often it's people who make art that involves taking their own picture or performing some how. I know they probably think of Egypt as "ancient" and therefore not subject to the same cultural politics, or maybe they think they are appropriating an appropriation (dressing *as* Bara or more likely Bernhardt dresses as Eastern Princesses) but I guess I just think that dressing up as Cleopatra for Halloween or Facebook or (worst of all) performance art is, kinda, well, racist. there. I said it.

Posted on January 8, 2013 at 1:03 pm 2

On There's a New "Les Miz" Trailer

He looks cute, and he does say "TO THE BARRICADES" (which may not have been in the play?) well. Bummer they cut the One Day More Montage at the moment he comes in.

Posted on November 9, 2012 at 1:09 pm 2

On There's a New "Les Miz" Trailer

yeaaaahhh not loving the casting of the Thenardiers. Those parts are preeeetttyyy hammy, and these two might take them over the top.

Posted on November 9, 2012 at 1:08 pm 0