It's a Stovepipe Sponge! Me, I'm from Melbourne.
@Lulu22 Jinxies :) We should get some cups with "Establishing myself" printed on them.
"Even in a cup I establish myself." I love this, she speaks so poetically.
@frigwiggin I found therapy really helpful for getting to the root causes of my anxiety and depression. I cried a lot at my appointments- which I was embarrassed about to begin with - but that's totally OK. Therapy opened up a big can of psychological worms which I wasn't prepared for, and it's been hard work wrangling all those escaped worms, but they really needed to get out of that can and go somewhere healthier for them. I've been taking medication too which has helped. I feel like the medication gives me the headspace to function in life and deal with the deeper issues which the therapy has brought up.
I was also worried about approaching my boss about time off - in the end I said something like "I need go to a weekly appointment for the next couple of months for help with some issues I've been dealing with". My boss was understanding and it was fine.
Be gentle with yourself. I give myself permission to have plenty of extra rest time if I need it.
@j-i-a I kind of want a smallpox lamp.
Mobbed by penguins :D
@Faintly Macabre I'm in the recognising and quantifying stage of the process, I think. How bad is/was she? Is it abuse to dismiss your child's emotional needs or merely neglect? Is the distinction even important, or just the effects? If it's abuse I have the right to feel angry! But I have the right to feel angry anyway! @Racing snail - I hear you on taking steps back and losing your mom figure.
Thanks everyone, I've wondering if I need to go back to the therapist after having a break for a while and it's clear that would be helpful now.
@adorable-eggplant Yeah, it's been bringing up all these 'feelings' things that I have to recognise and deal with, rather than suppressing like normal. I haven't spoken to a therapist for a year or so but it's probably time to go back.
@sophia_h Look how little he is compared to his dad's hand! Congrats!
Vent alert! I think my mother has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or at least many of the traits. It's starting to hit me that I can't rely on her for emotional support or genuine empathy, and indeed I never could. This is the reason for my fierce streak of independence since infancy even. I have to learn that it's ok to have needs and emotions and ask other people for help. It's been a good thing to realize this fundamental thing. But now whenever I speak to her I am knocked sideways by the depth of her self- absorption and the fact that she is really not interested in anything about me except what I can do for her. Ouch :( Sorry for the vent but I really haven't talked to anyone about this except plumb-boy and a therapist.
@angelan Yes, and I agree. We didn't see much of the Russian sister, and there weren't any other significant female characters.