@daisicles High five, my bigfooted sister. You probably know this, but Nordstrom carries some nice shoes in a 12! I almost got a pair of taupe ankle boots at Nordstrom Rack this fall before realizing that the pair that fit me well wasn't real suede.
@j-i-a Thank you for clarifying! I agree somewhat, and I try to reserve my judgment for the retailers, not the shoppers, though that's sometimes hard. For me, most of the class issues I see that counter my viewpoint are that Black Friday might be some people's rare family day off to shop before Christmas, and that some people might not have the education/information access to distrust the ads. (Though then that gets perilously close to thinking that lower-class people are in a lower class of intellect...) Like a lot of class/consumerism issues, it's thorny and complicated.
@or Elsa! Yeah, I don't see how being against Black Friday is being insensitive to poor people.
Most of the better-off people I know who are against Black Friday feel that way partly from concern for people who don't have the luxury of opting out of an opportunity to make money and thus are essentially forced to work during a holiday. I'm guessing most of the people who think it's an opportunity for the poors to buy stuff they really need cheap aren't getting up at 3AM the day after Thanksgiving to go work amid rabid crowds. I used to be mostly indifferent to Black Friday until I noticed how it crept earlier every year and finally into Thanksgiving.
Also, most things are not cheaper on Black Friday! There were approximately a million stories last week about how while maybe a few loss-leaders were good deals, nothing else is much cheaper than in surrounding weeks. Black Friday is not some altruistic holiday designed by retailers to provide cheap gifts to the poor.
@granny squares Cranberry sauce from Serious Eats, apple-cranberry pie from Cook's Illustrated (I made it 2 years ago and it is SO GOOD), and either pecan or pumpkin pie. I want to make Dorie Greenspan's pecan-pumpkin pie, but the rest of my family doesn't think it sounds good. Oh, and the world's easiest sweet potatoes that some kind 'pinner gave me the recipe for last year.
@latenac Everyone knows there's no point of doing something good if you can't post about it online.
@karenb Seeing as these guys seem like black holes of insecurity and misery, I'm guessing that their insistence on a "10" comes from insecurity as well--because if you can't/don't bag a supermodel, everyone will think you're a hideous loser and laugh and laugh and laugh!
@mistersister I think that whole lifestyle encourages (and is probably encouraged by) really intense narcissism. If you spend all of your time focusing on getting your ass and smoothies perfect, and all of your money on the best-for-you wheatgrass or yoga pants, there's not a whole lot of energy/money left for anything else. It's like religion without any of the altruism or memento mori, and with a hefty pricetag.
On Ask Baba Yaga: There's Got to Be a Way to Exist Without Constantly Inflating and Deflating My Ego
Ughh, I could have written this letter. One of the few things that's worked is, when I start feeling really self-conscious, to imagine that I'm in a giant semi-opaque bubble that people's glances sort of bounce off and that includes at most whomever I'm interacting with. It's silly, but it's usually enough to stop self-consciousness spirals.
I also used to pretend that I was a honeybadger and not give a shit, but since I'm unfortunately not actually a honeybadger, that didn't work quite as well.
@cabber I've been using it in fits and starts to learn Spanish. I generally like it and think it's effective. The only issue I have with it, which I've seen elsewhere, is that it's not 100% accurate, especially at higher levels. I speak French very well , and when I tried practicing my French with it, it often insisted on translations that were not at all how a human would speak. I'm going to keep using it for Spanish, though, because I think it'll take a while to get to a level where those problems actually impact what I'm learning.
She also did a verse on a version of "Papapoutai" by Stromae on his album Racine Carree! (Sorry, kind of Stromae-obsessed.)