@Lisa Frank I agree that staying in hotels is lonely and sucks. Don't do it.
Hostels can be amazing, though not 100% of the time. Definitely check out reviews if you can, and if you're in an area that's full of backpackers you'll probably be fine (avoid Venice Beach).
I've used airbnb.com for the past year or two and have only had positive experiences (and made some friends!). Again, if you stick with people that have lots of positive reviews you should be fine... I've also only stayed with other ladies.
@Kivrin Yes for Mitchum! Since switching to that I have had zero stains on my shirts.
@fallon ash@twitter Yes! I love "Above All, Honor" by Radclyffe. Everyone should read it.
"UNLESS she assumes that her butchdom already makes it obvious"
Oh god I think I'm one of these butches. This never even crossed my mind, that it would not be obvious. Short hair, muscular, guy clothes, that lopsided ladydyke grin... I just feel like wearing rainbows would be overkill? But I guess from now on I'll keep in mind that not everyone will take my queerness for granted?
Also, if the femme has not read this blog already (how??), she should start today: http://effingdykes.blogspot.com/2011/09/watching-that-girlish-figure.html