By peculiarity on 12 Books to Creep Yourself Out With

Excuse me, there's no Shirley Jackson on this list. Your argument is invalid.

Also, I was always creeped out by Dahl's "The Witches." The little boy stays a mouse at the end! He isn't saved! That's horrifying to me.

Posted on October 29, 2013 at 12:58 pm 4

By Lily Rowan on "The cost for each attendee: $4000. And that was after Tracy’s fiancé paid one night for everyone at the W hotel"

@garli Oh yeah, absolutely.

In general, I just think there is a difference between "rich people lol" and "crazy wimmins and their bridal excess!"

Posted on October 28, 2013 at 10:57 am 6

By fuck fuck fuck on Friday Open Thread

@yeah-elle heaven knows, he's miserable nowwwww

Posted on October 25, 2013 at 4:17 pm 2

By yeah-elle on Friday Open Thread

@stonefruit Morrissey is pretty insufferable. But he knows he's unloveabbbllee, you don't have to tell himmmm.

Posted on October 25, 2013 at 3:50 pm 3

By H.E. Ladypants on The OkCupid Honesty Project: An Exercise in Truth-Telling

@cee I think part of what threw me is the impression I got that she must be incredibly dour and, as the poster below noted, self-involved. But because this is a product of the writing style and the style is supposed to be so very straight forward, I have no idea if this is true of her as a person. For all I know she might be terribly interesting to have a conversation with. Or very funny. Or a great listener. I might like or hate or be completely indifferent to this woman but I have no way of knowing because she never pauses from the patter of facts to say something of style rather than substance.

I think that you make a good point that OKCupid is a platform for a "performance of self produced for other people to evaluate by likeability." Considering that the entire point of this is to get responses from others, there's no way it could help but be the exact same thing.

Then, of course, there's the whole thing about using people's interactions to become a part of an art piece they didn't sign up for that's a bit icky but that's another story for another day. (I have strong reactions to artists treating people like subjects rather than other humans.)

Posted on October 16, 2013 at 3:17 pm 8

By RNL on The Glittery Fountain In the Sky, Staying Closeted For Your Career, and Lesbian FOMO

@iceberg I feel similarly. I'm sure there's lots that has been written about this stuff by wise people, and I should probably read it. But off the top of my head: the issue is not really "sexuality", it seems to me. It's about the public/private divide. Nobody in my life needs to know about my proclivities in bed. Those can have nothing to do with my public life.

It's about identity, which can be really tied to sexuality, but is not exactly sexuality. Not conforming to gender norms in a public way. Not being romantic or partnered with who is expected of you. That kind of thing. Because that stuff is profoundly public.

I'm straight and cis and white and so maybe I really don't get it. But I feel like LW2 definitely should not tell her co-workers and members of her profession she (sorry if the pronoun is wrong) only dates men who are sexually submissive. That's inappropriate information. I can totally see how it is very (for her) tied to her public identity, but it is not public information.

I think we should all be allies. And maybe, eventually queer/not queer won't be so bright a line.

Posted on October 15, 2013 at 5:10 pm 4

By iceberg on The Glittery Fountain In the Sky, Staying Closeted For Your Career, and Lesbian FOMO

I mean, I'm just a clueless straight person so I could be wrong about this, and I can understand how it might feel to think that such an important part of your identity is important for literally everyone to know about and understand accurately, but like, is it so bad if you just don't lie when it comes up (and when you feel safe not lying), rather than *force* the topic to come up?

Admittedly I am coming from the viewpoint of someone who doesn't care who you bone or what their junk is shaped like, but I would rather not know if my coworkers are into kink, for example? That is just info I don't need.

I don't know. I suppose visibility is important on that thing of how people become more accepting of whatever when they know someone - so like if you know your office manager is bi you'll be less of a jerk when your nephew comes out?

Posted on October 15, 2013 at 4:49 pm 2

By Onymous on Friday Open Thread

@yeah-elle Gorgeous Washington!

Posted on October 11, 2013 at 4:50 pm 1

By iceberg on The Middle Part Is Having Its Moment, Again, Somehow

@Amphora the trick, I think, is to not go too far from the centre. Find where your hair WANTS to be parted.

Posted on October 2, 2013 at 9:54 pm 3

By Tragically Ludicrous on Susan Miller's Guide to October: AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

@KJZ It is entirely possible that your child will be a griffin, if I understand astrology.

Posted on October 1, 2013 at 2:26 pm 17