@WhiskeySour That is my stupid phone playing the autocorrect game and my not catching it.
My ARM. Not ATM. Sigh.
@Blushingflwr Yes, I know. Only this is about physical access to another human being's body, so, you know. Bad person.
@WhiskeySour Because they're assholes. In both cases. Cleansing fires, let the wind take the ashes.
@hairouna Haha I almost put that in my comment (preggo belly touching) but really it only happened once to me, not really comparable to what you're talking about!!! Ugh I cannot IMAGINE the thought process that is like, but I asked nicely, why does this complete stranger not want my hands that have been gods-know-where all up on her?
@hairouna But why did you grow that type of hair if you didn't want people to touch it?
I'M JOKING, PEOPLE ARE THE WORST.
Seems like there are certain characteristics that people just decide allow them to override common decency.
I can't believe Prudie's response is, essentially, "just ignore the hair toucher and maybe make sure you always sit behind her". (Wait, actually, I can TOTALLY believe Prudie's advice is terrible, because it's Prudie and "gives terrible advice" is sort of her thing.) Why not "tell the lady to stop touching other ladies' hair"? Or, if you're feeling less confrontational, "Tell the bus driver that a regular passenger is being super creepy." Taking public transit every day is difficult enough without having to tolerate stuff that's relatively easily dealt with.
LW#2 - I think the two of you are perfectly matched. He is a juicebox who lied about making a baby with his live-in girlfriend (who you think is an ex), and you apparently have the shortest memory and lowest expectations on the planet.
I say, hang in there. He'll change, and eventually, be devoted only to you, and not his two other kids by his current girlfriend. And hey - when he fucks around on you when you are pregnant (or shortly thereafter), please show the next girlfriend as much respect as you are showing his current girlfriend.
This would have been my response to LW2, I think. Simple:
"We’re both seeing other people (and are both cool with that). It’s been a couple months.". . ."I’m here until next May (grad school), but I could stay. If I did, it would be for him." ABSOLUTELY NOT YOUNG LADY.
Probably why I don't get asked to write these very often.
@atipofthehat Uhm, yes. Double points for singing in a ridiculous falsetto and accent and/or accessorizing with scarves while you sing/dance.
@sox One of my requirements for if I ever shack up with An Awesome Dude or An Awesome Lady is that they have no shame about singin' and dancin' like crazy at home (and sometimes inappropriate public situations).
There's also nothing wrong with being inherently effeminate! And at least dancing hasn't been banned yet.