@soul toast I'll avoid going into a long obsessive post about the evolution of my hair care practices. But at this point in fro-ownership I have it down to a fine and lazy art. So much so, that the more it is messed up the better it looks. So I actually have my hands in my hair a lot. And if I had a dude-friend he would be invited to play too. It is one of my favorite things.
@iceberg And it's amazing that it doesn't fall along demographic lines. Old Upper East side lady and dude on a bus in Brooklyn, both of them are mortally offended that they can't run their fingers through my hair. I just can't understand it. I go through a lot of effort to NOT touch strangers. I live in NYC we are not supposed to make eye contact or touch, them's the rules!
@Ophelia My great-grands on mom's side were first cousins. My mom's cousin married my father's sister, so I joke that my aunt married my cousin. My country, it is tiny.
@Jade I'm trying to comprehend how that lady thought that squeezing any part of you was okay and I'm just coming up blank. I don't know what an ATM is either but OMG whatever it is can she please keep herself to herself.
@iceberg Some people actually do ask and then get upset when I say "no". There's a level of entitlement to other people's (especially ladies') bodies that is disturbing. It's like when a lady gets pregnant and all of a sudden everyone just lunges towards her belly. BOUNDARIES!
As a lady with a big ole 'fro, the ninja hair touchers are my worst nightmare. I really like having my hair petted by people I KNOW and LOVE. You have to be a member of both categories or you'll get slapped. No exceptions (except for cute babies), but the sheer amount of people who reach for my hair is staggering.
@BoozinSusan If you're a juicebox then let's be a six-pack because I'm now wondering the same thing. There are some health issues that could suddenly affect one's breath. However I am far more comfortable speculating on whether or not he is an asshole than if she has a disease.
@BoozinSusan That could definitely be a legit thing. I had a broken tooth that made my mouth extra fragrant for a bit. (Too much info?) But she says that he liked it before. Enough so that it wasn't a problem until much later. It's one thing if he never ever wanted to kiss, but to be okay with doing something for quite some time and then suddenly stopping is odd. Especially for such a juicebox reason. Unless the halitosis that she mentioned is a recent development and he can't bear to bring it up with her?
@paddlepickle I agree on both of those issues. (That picture! So hot!) But ummm, if was down with rubbing faces before why is this such an epic request now? Was he doing it just because he thought women liked it? Why is he making essentialist statements about what men and women want? (Flag on the play!) Something in this milk is not clean, methinks.
@redheaded&crazie I am imagining dude getting his groove on (with hairbrush micriphone!) And maaaaaybe in my head he looks like Tom Hiddleston. All of this is improving my afternoon immeasurably. Such adorbs, I can't even.