Hmn. I feel like there someone should write book called "The Banality of Rape": a compilation of everyone's (or, you know, a representative sample's) stories and then make it REQUIRED reading in schools. B/c, you know, when I got to college I still thought rape was a stranger dragging you off into an alley somewhere. I didn't expect an acquaintance's roommate to take advantage of my drunkenness and force me to have sex w/ him later, overriding my (weak, impeded by alcohol) physical and verbal attempts to stop him.
It's a fine balance, trying to understand what happened to me, w/o becoming defined by it. I wouldn't even call myself a "survivor." I'm reluctant to place myself in that category, not b/c it's an insult, but b/c I feel it's limiting somehow. Like I've been exiled from normalcy. That's why I think it's so important to change our understanding of what rape is, and who it happens to. I don't think the readers of this site are the target population, but rather the general population. And I do mean general; I haven't been everywhere, but I have lived in several different countries on three continents, and I've never found a place where women are, by and large, safe and loved.
@cliuless Once, I had a dream that there were cockroaches everywhere, and I was desperately trying to stamp on them all. I woke up to pee, and was horrified to find a cockroach clinging to my pajama pant leg!! There was only one though.*
*The others had already crawled into my ears/nostrils/mouth and down my throat?
@KeLynn Also, they make primer with SPF 15, which well help mattify while protecting from sun damage. I'm currently a fan of Hourglass mineral primer.
@Countess Sandwich /Where/ do you wear it? I scored a beautiful mink cape on Etsy for a song, but all I do is take it out sometimes and luxuriate in it in front of the mirror. Oh and used it in a Lookbook look once.
@parallel-lines An alternative to the Bumpit?
I guess horses don't have the facial mobility of humans, but I've always found that their eyes are extremely expressive and indicative of their mood. Plus all that ear action!
@bouncy castle Except I thought the ballet in "Black Swan" wasn't all that great? I was like, ENOUGH, let's go watch "Center Stage."
What I will give "Black Swan" is that there is some gritty realism to some of the more unsavory scenes. But I think Aronofsky really failed to capture the JOY that goes alongside the pain and obsessiveness of dance.
@pastina Haha yeah, my Ecuadorian friend was like, "You keep them as PETS? But they're FOOD." And then I was sad.
@klemay Also, isn't "testing" yourself by going dry for a few days supposed to be, in fact, a sign of alcoholism??
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@wakeshakecake Then when they have kids, they wind up on STFU Parents.