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On Interview With a Virgin: Maya

Hmn. I feel like there someone should write book called "The Banality of Rape": a compilation of everyone's (or, you know, a representative sample's) stories and then make it REQUIRED reading in schools. B/c, you know, when I got to college I still thought rape was a stranger dragging you off into an alley somewhere. I didn't expect an acquaintance's roommate to take advantage of my drunkenness and force me to have sex w/ him later, overriding my (weak, impeded by alcohol) physical and verbal attempts to stop him.
It's a fine balance, trying to understand what happened to me, w/o becoming defined by it. I wouldn't even call myself a "survivor." I'm reluctant to place myself in that category, not b/c it's an insult, but b/c I feel it's limiting somehow. Like I've been exiled from normalcy. That's why I think it's so important to change our understanding of what rape is, and who it happens to. I don't think the readers of this site are the target population, but rather the general population. And I do mean general; I haven't been everywhere, but I have lived in several different countries on three continents, and I've never found a place where women are, by and large, safe and loved.

Posted on September 28, 2012 at 1:16 pm 4

On Ask a Clean Person: Tackling a Major Clean-up, Part One

@cliuless Once, I had a dream that there were cockroaches everywhere, and I was desperately trying to stamp on them all. I woke up to pee, and was horrified to find a cockroach clinging to my pajama pant leg!! There was only one though.*

*The others had already crawled into my ears/nostrils/mouth and down my throat?

Posted on January 9, 2012 at 5:54 pm 0

On Beauty Q&A: Sex Hair, Fur, and the Perfect T-Shirt

@KeLynn Also, they make primer with SPF 15, which well help mattify while protecting from sun damage. I'm currently a fan of Hourglass mineral primer.

Posted on January 9, 2012 at 5:50 pm 0

On Beauty Q&A: Sex Hair, Fur, and the Perfect T-Shirt

@Countess Sandwich /Where/ do you wear it? I scored a beautiful mink cape on Etsy for a song, but all I do is take it out sometimes and luxuriate in it in front of the mirror. Oh and used it in a Lookbook look once.

Posted on January 9, 2012 at 5:47 pm 0

On Beauty Q&A: Sex Hair, Fur, and the Perfect T-Shirt

@parallel-lines An alternative to the Bumpit?

Posted on January 9, 2012 at 5:42 pm 0

On War Horse: An Illustrated Review

I guess horses don't have the facial mobility of humans, but I've always found that their eyes are extremely expressive and indicative of their mood. Plus all that ear action!

Posted on January 9, 2012 at 2:45 pm 0

On War Horse: An Illustrated Review

@bouncy castle Except I thought the ballet in "Black Swan" wasn't all that great? I was like, ENOUGH, let's go watch "Center Stage."

What I will give "Black Swan" is that there is some gritty realism to some of the more unsavory scenes. But I think Aronofsky really failed to capture the JOY that goes alongside the pain and obsessiveness of dance.

Posted on January 9, 2012 at 2:43 pm 0

On War Horse: An Illustrated Review

@pastina Haha yeah, my Ecuadorian friend was like, "You keep them as PETS? But they're FOOD." And then I was sad.

Posted on January 9, 2012 at 2:38 pm 1

On Mondry, Tuesdry

@klemay Also, isn't "testing" yourself by going dry for a few days supposed to be, in fact, a sign of alcoholism??

Posted on January 9, 2012 at 2:32 pm 2

On Wall to Wall

@wakeshakecake Then when they have kids, they wind up on STFU Parents.

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