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On Friday Open Thread

@Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that) I did keep my distance, even to the point of not answering e-mails or texts… for a few minutes, until she'd text again to try my work e-mail. Her frenzy made me feel like I was being so mean to her! I have a feeling she knew that I knew and, while not eager to talk about it, she was maybe looking for an opening to do so? So I replied in short-and-sweet ways, and didn't bring it up. And she didn't either because I think she was scared to.

SO… she didn't even show up to my mom's at Christmas, but she came by the next day as did I, because we had relatives visiting. We small-talked a little but I left soon after her arrival. She proceeded to have a meltdown (about the sad breakup, not that she's been lying to me or anything). I don't think she revealed to the relatives who the breakup was with.

And then… I get a flurry of texts and FB messages about how I should be supporting my (38-year-old) sister better in her time of need. I even got a total passive-aggressive Facebook post from MY GRANDMA (only she posted it as her own status by mistake because grandmas and Facebook don't always mix). Then other relatives (who, again may not have known who the guy is) chimed in about how they knew the vague status was about me but they didn't want to call me out (for… what? I dunno). It was a mess and somehow it is these silly-ass sad-girl memes that are making me madder than anything! She is wallowing over an ill-conceived to begin with relationship in the most juvenile way possible. Who reTweets "I miss you"? I am serious, that's all the tweet said from something called "LoveQuotes." And when people offer encouraging words, she gets all, "But you don't understand how I feel" about it! Ugh.

Oy, rambly--sorry! Whew, I let it all out there, didn't I? I have to stop spying, don't I?

Posted on February 7, 2014 at 5:02 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

@Hellcat "because" should be "became." And I believe I have an "os" for "is." Yikes, sorry!

Posted on February 7, 2014 at 4:53 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

I need to vent:

I revealed here a while ago (around Christmas) my Jerry Springer-esque tale of my sister having a secret relationship with a very serious ex of mine (together five years, and not an amicable breakup)… well, secret from me; seems my parents knew all along (and even lied to me when I started to figure it out). Anyway, he gave her the "just friends" speech after she characteristically because too attached to what I assume was intended as an FWB relationship. And then my mother called me for advice on how to console my sister now that her relationship with my serious ex was over.

And now, here I sit, driving myself crazy stalking my sister's Twitter/Instagram because she is posting sad memes about heartbreak so that all her friends can give her the poor baby/he was intimidated by your love/he feels it but doesn't realize it speeches. Ugh, the whole situation os just… ugh, gross.

Posted on February 7, 2014 at 4:43 pm 0

On FOUND: The Best Sheets

You guys--sheets with elaborate patterns: where are they? Boyfriend's face/head discolors the pillowcases, dark or light, so I've decided it's patterns from now on. With the exception of some flowery-skull ones, I'm finding nothing!

Posted on January 31, 2014 at 7:13 pm 0

On Somewhere Between Fantasy and Reality: A Tribute to Loehmann's

@champignondeluxe Haha--when I bought a pair of blue-suede Jeffrey Campbell biker boots a couple of years ago, I almost freaked right out. I went back and forth in my head about paying the price but couldn't get those beautiful things out of my mind and finally bought them. Then I was afraid to actually wear them. And then I paid a shoe guy to waterproof them, even though I could do it myself for all of $10. And then…

I found the same pair in black (not at Loehmann's) for $150 cheaper. Strangely, I felt no compunctions about hitting "Buy" on the latter because I knew only too well what a bargain they were.

Posted on January 29, 2014 at 12:50 pm 0

On Somewhere Between Fantasy and Reality: A Tribute to Loehmann's

@commanderbanana Oh, I can relate. The love of clothes and the fact that I find the activity of shopping to be fun conflict with my other love of an always orderly closet in which I can see everything at once.

Posted on January 29, 2014 at 11:33 am 0

On Somewhere Between Fantasy and Reality: A Tribute to Loehmann's

I feel like I could have written this; it is that close to my heart, right down to the reasons that made the shopper I am today (except I don't have six brothers; just one sister--and still I felt/feel this way), even though my mom was always clad in stylish, current stuff). And Loehmann's was always my go-to spot, as there's one five minutes from my office (a dangerous thing when your job aggravates you to the point of unnecessary shopping that you justify as therapeutic).

My most memorable find (though not my favorite by any means) is a Theory sheath in black satin with a big old cobalt blue stripe toward the bottom--very mod-looking. And $60! My favorite finds were always Lucky jeans for $40, and Betsey Johnson stuff when it sporadically appeared.

I went in last week to get in on the clearance sale and regret to report that I found nothin'.

Posted on January 29, 2014 at 11:24 am 1

On Holiday Programming Note

@ptthhhbbbbt Well, thank you--you seem very wise! And at this time of year, that is to be admired!

Anyway, my sister didn't even show up, even though she could have had a double platform of attention: her "breakup: with my ex and the car crash she was in (minor--she's OK; a little sore and the car's front end is a bit messy) on Tuesday. This worked out for me but we're having family hangout part two today and I don't know if she'll show up.

Posted on December 26, 2013 at 8:57 am 0

On Holiday Programming Note

I hope this is not bad internet etiquette to repost this here (I put it in the last Friday Open Thread yesterday, but I don't think anyone's lurking about in there anymore) but I am having a mini-meltdown over whether I should bother doing the Christmas Day thing at my mom's tomorrow, and here's why...

Any advice on how to handle a Christmas-with-Family when I just last night found out* that my dear (needy and attention-craving) sister has been banging a serious ex of mine, and my mother and stepfather both have known for months and months and no one told me even though I already knew that they'd reconnected via Facebook and were "just friends" now (which was weird enough, considering that they weren't that tight to begin with)?

The best part? My mother called me last night to ask for advice as to how to comfort my sister… who just found out that my ex does not want to pursue a relationship, FWB or otherwise, with her.

A few details:
- It was a serious ex, and the breakup was awful for me.
- He's one of very few exes that I no longer speak to ever.
- He lives an hour away from my sister, so they did not run into each other accidentally and keep in touch. I am 99% certain she pursued him, years after our breakup, via Facebook.
- I am not jealous of this (I know that seems like a big fat lie); I am just mad at her sneakiness and her need for male attention that surpasses all else. She had ample opportunities to spill these ugly beans and she skirted around it, even though she brought up their (weird) friendship all the time.
- I don't think he is blameless, exactly, but I also don't care what he does "to" me; it's what my own sister does.
- I am happily involved with my awesome BF of 4+ years, and he is stupefied that I am not madder than I am about this.

Posted on December 24, 2013 at 11:37 am 0

On Friday Open Thread

IS ANYONE STILL FLOATING AROUND IN HERE?! HELP!

Any advice on how to handle a Christmas-with-Family when I just last night found out* that my dear (needy and attention-craving) sister has been banging a serious ex of mine, and my mother and stepfather both have known for months and months and no one told me even though I already knew that they'd reconnected via Facebook and were "just friends" now (which was weird enough, considering that they weren't that tight to begin with)?

The best part? My mother called me last night to ask for advice as to how to comfort my sister… who just found out that my ex does not want to pursue a relationship, FWB or otherwise, with her.

A few details:
- It was a serious ex, and the breakup was awful for me.
- He's one of very few exes that I no longer speak to ever.
- He lives an hour away from my sister, so they did not run into each other accidentally and keep in touch. I am 99% certain she pursued him, years after our breakup, via Facebook.
- I am not jealous of this (I know that seems like a big fat lie); I am just mad at her sneakiness and her need for male attention that surpasses all else. She had ample opportunities to spill these ugly beans and she skirted around it, even though she brought up their (weird) friendship all the time.
- I don't think he is blameless, exactly, but I also don't care what he does "to" me; it's what my own sister does.
- I am happily involved with my awesome BF of 4+ years, and he is stupefied that I am not madder than I am about this.

Posted on December 23, 2013 at 3:39 pm 0