On Who Is "You"? (Mad)

@muddgirl Yes, this! If every aspect of most other competitive games has been picked over for the best-possible numeric scenario - when to go for the two-point conversion rather than the extra point kick, exactly what "technical difficulty" score to shoot for in your floor routine - why shouldn't someone go through this particular rule set and statistical pattern to see how well you can "break" the game?

Also relevant:

Posted on February 4, 2014 at 11:27 am 0

On The Shark Has Pretty Teeth, Dear: Why I Teach Women Self-Defense

As someone who uses the hell out of analogies to think/talk about the world, I mostly really like this one.

Of course, I also think that it does a great job of making clear what makes these two cases so different: If you were t-boned by a drunk driver one night... the cops would believe you, no one would say you were 'asking for it', your previous record of bad driving wouldn't be hauled through court as 'evidence', and all-around, your defensive-or-not driving wouldn't be hashed over a thousand times by people who weren't there.

I loved this article's ability to articulate both sides of the debate, and I'm mostly on the side of 'let's not condemn self-defense as a whole', so I think we mostly agree. This analogy just works really well as a way to talk for both sides, imho.

Posted on January 8, 2014 at 12:20 pm 0

On Befriending Your Best Friend's Girlfriend and Resisting the "One True Sex Act"

ETA: So sorry if you weren't actually looking for advice, just a chance to commiserate!

I'm sorry your partners' lameness. :\

Posted on December 3, 2013 at 5:41 pm 0

On Befriending Your Best Friend's Girlfriend and Resisting the "One True Sex Act"

@Regina Phalange
Can I ask why you're doing the celibate-until-marriage path? Among my college friends, it usually meant that there were a lot of values and attitudes towards what sex is and what it means that go with that choice, and finding even a not-celibate partner with similar values might help. (Of course, we all have such values but it seems like only the have-lots-of-sex-ers and the wait-for-the-sex-ers ever get pressed to articulate them. As a lots-of-sex-haver, I'd actually be really interested to have a friendly, respectful conversation about this, although I don't know that the internet will be a friend.)

The other question is how old are you? Maturing peers really do get better about weighing the "awesome you-ness" versus sexy times equation more compassionately.

Posted on December 3, 2013 at 5:40 pm 0

On Befriending Your Best Friend's Girlfriend and Resisting the "One True Sex Act"

@Sgt. Exposition @hedgehogerie

I think everyone has some good points, but I'm on the side of completely cutting off the relationship as being too harsh. I think there's a middle ground of limit-setting that has to come before the complete shut-down, lest the afore-mentioned festering. That said, it's not up to me to determine what the timeline for all of this is.

And I think Queer Chick's advice about how acceptance doesn't come magically out of the clouds, it has to be worked towards is very, very good.

Posted on December 3, 2013 at 5:32 pm 1

On Closeted Characters, and the Books That Love Them

@she came in through the bathroom window

Isn't that basically the plot of Homeland season 1?

Posted on November 22, 2013 at 4:03 pm 0

On Ask a Glutton: I'm Through With Eggs

I'm definitely intrigued by this idea, although I'm a little concerned that it will come out crazy-sugary. Do you tweak it, or is it better as-is?

Posted on November 12, 2013 at 1:05 pm 0

On Ask a Glutton: I'm Through With Eggs

@apples and oranges
I think part of the problem is that breakfast has held out as our last guardian of blandness. No garlic, no spiciness, no big punches of umami (except in the form of breakfast meats, but that's another story). Just: eggs, oats, cereal grains: no wonder everything on the breakfast menu turns into a sugar-fest.

Case in point: I find a plain fried egg almost gag-inducing to eat. A bowl of garlicky refried black beans and broccoli, topped with a runny fried egg and soy sauce? AMAZEBALLS. In short, unless you're a person who can only handle blandness in the mornings, I also support throwing out the breakfast book and just making whatever you want.

Posted on November 12, 2013 at 12:57 pm 1

On "The Logic of Stupid Poor People," Or, the Only Thing Worth Reading About the Barneys "Shopping While Black" Arrests

Oh Dear God, yes. That episode is spot-on, isn't it?

This feels like the first time I re-watched Newsies after reached adulthood and realized it's the most pro-labor movie I've ever seen... and it was made by Disney

Posted on October 30, 2013 at 1:46 pm 1

On Is Snooze the Enemy?

@Lady Humungus
I'm not currently taking my own advice, but the simplest seems to be: disable the snooze button.

I used to have a snooze-free alarm, which I paired with watching hulu/netflix on my computer still in-bed in the mornings before rising and dressing. This worked really well for me, until I gained a bed-partner. (I was known to sleep through the alarm for fifty minutes at a time in the winter; I've learned that I really, really can't wake up before sunrise.)

Now, hitting the snooze button ASAP feels like a necessary courtesy. I don't know how to navigate this successfully.

Posted on October 24, 2013 at 2:49 pm 0