By LilyB on Self-Care, in Theory and Practice

All of this is great, including all the comments.

For better sleep and self-care, might I suggest reading. I think we're all big readers here, but really, get a book from the library, something that makes you happy (not necessarily something you think will "improve" you) and turn off all the screens and the noise and read. Screens tell your eyes it's still daytime. I can't think of anything more luxurious than saying, I'm going to turn off everything (not the lights, obv) and sit down and read this book for no other reason than because I LIKE IT. Pair with tea/coffee/wine/scotch as desired.

Posted on November 13, 2014 at 10:00 am 1

By shalalas on Self-Care, in Theory and Practice

@KilgoreTrout great point. I often use spending time with my partner as an excuse to not do the things I need to do for myself.

Posted on November 11, 2014 at 2:52 pm 4

By KilgoreTrout on Self-Care, in Theory and Practice

This quote irks me: "This column has a singular purpose: to talk to single women about navigating a world where they are their own savior."
Why does self care have to be specifically directed at single women? I feel that women who are in long term relationships tend to struggle just as much if not more with self care. There isn't as much free or private time to nurture yourself when you have another human living with you. I find myself feeling guilty or selfish on nights where I tell my parter I don't want any friends to come over just so I can have an evening to recharge. I can't dominate the bathroom and make it my own personal relaxation zone. I can't only think about caring for myself. It's silly to think that once you're in a relationship these questions of whether you're worth loving and whether you're attractive go away - sometimes they become amplified.

Posted on November 11, 2014 at 2:41 pm 3

By Jazmine on Weekend Roundup

@talie Hi! Yes! So, right now: I am working full-time at good ol' NYMag and in the morning and at night with the Hairpin, so I haven't had a ton of time to dedicate to the spam comments-- which sucks, because this is my job now!-- but I ABHOR them and I promise to you that I will dedicate my life to eradicating them, protecting you from the likes of "NAME@FACEBOOK" and magic pills that'll get yr husband back and scary links that I'm afraid to click on. It is my solemn vow.

(I feel like a politician?!!?! Don't vote for me)

Posted on September 5, 2014 at 5:01 pm 4

By Diana on Reading Between the Texts: Is THIS Flirting?

This is my favorite column. Like, can we all pressure Katie Heaney to get an OKCupid account and go on questionable dates so she can analyze more terrible conversations? I mean that would be cruel and exploitative but it would bring me such delight.

Posted on May 29, 2013 at 3:40 pm 21

By bunB on Welcome, xoVain

Speaking of Janes and beauty, where is Jane Marie lately?

Posted on March 4, 2013 at 4:03 pm 7

By supernintendochalmers on Welcome, xoVain

I don't know... I'm not such an XOJane fan to begin with, but I don't really get their decision to make the beauty section a larger entity, besides potential revenue from selling products to us like every other women's magazine. Am I being too cynical?

Posted on March 4, 2013 at 1:22 pm 13

By Nicole Cliffe on Welcome, xoVain

I was re-reading "Emily of New Moon," because I am a child, and Emily is telling Aunt Elizabeth about leafing through her friend's dad's medical books (it's, like, the late 19th century), and Aunt Elizabeth is all ZOMG YOUNG WOMEN DO NOT NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THE INSIDES OF BODIES, and maybe she was right.

Posted on March 4, 2013 at 1:00 pm 7

By Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood on Welcome, xoVain

dang i thought this was an xojane burn

Posted on March 4, 2013 at 12:46 pm 28

By OxfordComma on An Ode to the Diva Cup

@Girl Named Jack : Augh, and when it actually splorches UP YOUR BACK????

Fucking uterus.

Posted on March 2, 2013 at 7:51 pm 1