On A Girl and a Good Wife

"You don't have to have children to be a grown-ass woman, but you must have experienced some kind of existential reckoning. Being grown-ass requires both an acceptance and a surrender of self."

That existential reckoning is the thing I've been trying to put my finger on since I crossed that gauntlet. Thank you for that.

(This is coming from someone who comes out of the same liberal arts perspective as Dunham — who worries about student loans and has always cared about health insurance — which is to say that not all twentysomething women behave like Hannah, but many live out similar quandaries; you can still be a good person, and nicer to your friends than she is, while having low stakes sex and sometimes, in moments of weakness, as we all do, asking for validation. You may even cross that existential reckoning if the cards don't go as you imagined them to. Life is hard. I wish the modern world didn't make it so hard to grab hold of something, and I wish more older women extended a helping hand instead of hating on us for modern sexual culture.)

Posted on October 21, 2013 at 10:30 pm 1

On We're All Jerks

@Cat named Virtute this is true & well articulated & something i've felt too. the moment of 'oh my god, this website is my mind & i love that all these cool ladies write about things i think about,' which then moves into 'oh. they think about it like me, but also, like me, have no real conclusions about where to go.'
i'm basically ok with it, & still a fan & liked this piece a lot, but there is something to be said for seizing the opportunity to address a larger audience and how that might call for going 'further,' as you say.

BUT ALSO, the irony of this is that it is not the most positive response, so. SORRY. i liked this piece! we ARE all jerks.

this also just makes me think of parker posey as the professional shot girl. anyone?

Posted on October 18, 2013 at 10:51 pm 0

On The Just Admit You're Pregnant Pie

@I'm Right on Top of that, Rose Book clubbb! I like that your book club drinks wine at book club. Mine meets in the (late) morning but we often have a beer anyway!

Posted on October 10, 2013 at 10:35 pm 0

On "Alice Munro Updated Her Cover Photo"

I'm just so happy about this. It's rare that a Nobel Prize in anything gets awarded that feels so true & heartfelt to me. Just sayin'. Write on, ladies, write on.

Posted on October 10, 2013 at 10:33 pm 0

On Gemini Season, 1970

@Jinxie my birthday's this thursday too! happy hairpin birthdayyyyyyys

Posted on June 3, 2013 at 5:12 pm 0

On Before Too Long, Everyone You Know Will Be Named Emma

wtf vermont!

Posted on May 29, 2013 at 9:06 pm 1

On Reading Between the Texts: Is THIS Flirting?

@antipretty so glad somebody else quoted this most perfect line so that i don't have to
<3u reading between the texts!!

Posted on May 29, 2013 at 9:04 pm 0

On An Ode to the Diva Cup

@bellryana ohh my god seriously.

Posted on March 3, 2013 at 12:57 am 0

On An Ode to the Diva Cup

@Amardine i have a history of yeasty problems and the cup took some adapting, figuring out how often to change and being really careful about how i cleaned it — i was getting a lot of general yeasty discomfort for awhile. but i also changed soaps, which i think was more the issue.

Posted on March 3, 2013 at 12:48 am 0

On An Ode to the Diva Cup

@quadrophenia me too. that's actually why i had to start using the diva cup, there was just too much damn blood. but i'm still keeping it!

copper lovin' ladies -- how long did it take your body to somewhat normalize? i've had mine for a little over six months and i feel like i'm still cramping at least 2/3 of the month :(

Posted on March 3, 2013 at 12:47 am 0