@all thanks guys. Yeah, I was still with my ex this time last year and I think of it fondly as the last nice time we had together before our relationship got mega-unhealthy and needed to end (which still somehow took 6 months..) SOOOooooo that's definitely making it worse. reading my comment above, it's like another person wrote it. Denial, so much fun... I guess I'm not really that OK with being single, and I feel like a needy jerk/bad feminist because of it. So all your advice about being nice to myself.. it gon be hard. But here goes.
@coolallison hmm, I do know someone who accused their employer of constructive dismissal, which I did not know was a thing, but they succeeded and were given a pretty great severance package.
@Madeline Shoes Holy moly, YOU ROCK! I am always so impressed when people take initiative to do good stuff instead of phoning it in. Way to go.
@youresmalltime I adopted a kittiiiieeeee! She's the greatest.
guys.. this week I was hit right in the feels with a weird, unexpected case of "boo hop, woe is me, I'm ~*alone*~ for Christmas" (meaning single).
I didn't think I cared about this, please help me not care! I've been single since June and other than breakup-hurts, I feel OK about singledom. And I have holiday plans that I'm excited about (all family time and travels) so why do I care about kissing somebody under the mistletoe or skating hand in hand or whatever????
@adorable-eggplant I really like podcasts for home yoga (and meditation too, for that matter.) Congrats on your public declaration! I have a hard time sticking with it.
THANK YOU. I needed to read this and I may even write my own.
I've been single since June and just have been dipping my toes back in the dating thing and it's bewildering and fun and hard. I've been a serial monogamist basically forever so this at 26 this is kind of the first time I've dated. This week I was unexpectedly blindsided with a case of the "oh no I'm single at Christmas waahhhhh" feelings which I never thought I'd care about, so it's a special moment for me to read and consider a piece like this.
@CheddarBiscuit THIS. When I hear "fireworks all the time" all I can think of is my last relationship, which was seriously dysfunctional and beautiful and passionate. I was miserable. It's a cliché that passion burning bright burns itself out, but it was true for me.
ETA- so don't blame "We're not a romantic family" –romance in the Hollywood sense is highly overrated and is, by and large, creepy, stalkerish, non-consensual and non-boundary-respecting behaviour.
@Madeline Shoes I don't want anything really, but I kinda want one of those lamps that's an alarm clock that wakes you up with light. And some camping gear but I want to pick it myself, so gift card pls. Ballin' outta control over here.
@adorable-eggplant that sounds mega gross to me; I like it on the rocks so that the water from the ice thins it a little. I like the flavour of egg nog but tend to buy the soy stuff because it's not as heavy. At the same time.... my curiosity is piqued.