this shit cray.
Anybody have insight on long distance relationships? Bf is currently at a dream job interview in New York and I'm tied to DC indefinitely. Things are great but I don't feel like they're serious enough to talk about moving for each other (I dont even know when we'd have that talk). I'm trying to be a grown ass lady about this but I'm terrified. All the advice I've read online just doesn't seem tailored for young professional types who have it mostly together but not entirely together and are vaguely overwhelmed.
Like is this serious? I dunno! Do I love the hell out of this person? Hell yeah! Do I love my job in my city? Also yes! Stop making me have adultlike conversations, life.
Oh I love this. At 25, I feel like a grown ass woman. After years of raging insecurity, I finally feel like I own my femininity. No, I will not put up with your dating bullshit and yes, I will tell you exactly what I want. I'll put it nicely, but I've dropped the demure card. I'm subtracting .5 woman points because I'm completely unable to wear bright red lipstick without looking like I ate crayons.
But I in no way feel like an adult. My life is stable - I have matching cooking ware and I manage my bank accounts - but the future freaks me out. I think I meet all the standard definitions of adulthood but I still feel like I have more in common with 16 year old me than with me parents.
@I'm Right on Top of that, Rose Not one bit inappropriate - when the roosters are crowing and the cows are doing circles in the pasture, ducks fly together after all.
I'm glad I can come to the comments here instead of having to wade through the ones on the NY Magazine site.
This article is so fucking important.
@Statham your username is literally the best.
Oh lord this article came out at a weird time. A few years ago, the cops caught a guy taking pictures up my skirt on the subway. A non violent interaction, but when I had to testify against him in court, I found myself in the victim room. I like to keep tabs on him online if I can - to make sure he doesnt suddenly live down the street from my new apartment or anything. I happened to find his facebook for the first time last week and everything came back, strong as ever - the throwing up, the insomania - and in my case, the anger.
I'm so, so glad the author found herself supported by so many around her. I know personally the whole experience left me feeling so dehumanized - knowing that so many intimate details of your life are part of an open book for an apathetic court system - ah I don't think there's a proper word for that feeling, but I imagine if there is, it's in German.
@missupright last time I went to get my hair cut, my stylist noted that I had some weirdly uneven spots. I had to sheepishly admit they were knots I had to cut out.
@Kirs how did you broach this topic? it's very far off on my horizon, but starting to appear in my telescope (I used telescope here because I forgot the name of the seeing thing that pirates use and I wanted to keep the horizon motif going...arrr).
Fingers crossed he says yes!
@frigwiggin pineapple wedges! with hot sauce on them!