I think this was great, but it was a really weird thing to read while eating lunch.
@give cheese some pants I found them both pretty insufferable too, to be honest. But Jess at least seemed more genuine about her feelings than Tim, so in the end I couldn't help but root for her a little.
I mean, demanding that she get a sweater, then bitching that she doesn't stand up for herself? Gaaaaaaaaaaaah!
@fabel I never wrote my pen pal either. But I also never got a letter. Maybe we were each other's!
@zamboni When that thing got to "YOU'RE NOT FAT" I did a serious double-take here in my office.
I think in some ways the experiment was doomed to fail with how intense the parameters were--I mean, weekly couples therapy? Being required to see each other daily? A weekend trip after a month? That's way more, way faster than most "normal" couples. I'm totally unsurprised it didn't work out.
Also Tim seems like a juicebox. When she wanted to quit halfway through and he got all hurt and convinced her to keep it going, then at the end he says "I'm in love with you but we can't be together"? What is that? Argh!!
I'm sad this doesn't have any other comments, because I always sort of loved Jojo. I can't believe I didn't know she had any new stuff out!
@karenb Maybe I just have particularly messy friends? I feel like I know several people who don't appear to regularly sweep/vacuum their floors.
I'm so sorry to hear about your pup. My childhood cat lived very many years and eventually everything stopped working, and we had to let her go -- it's not any easier to lose a family member even if you know it's coming. (Don't listen to anyone who doesn't think pets are family members!) You're doing the right thing by being concerned about her quality of life. Snuggle her hard for the next few weeks, and grieve however feels right to you.
@Quinn A@twitter Sometimes it's better to wait and bring things up later -- an immediate response is more likely to be seen as defensive. My current bosses coach people to accept feedback by simply saying "thank you for the feedback, I understand what you're saying" (or asking questions to clarify what they are saying if you don't get it) but making no other response in the moment. Then later, once you've had a chance to think about it, make a further response or adjustment if necessary. That shows that you really were thinking critically about it, not just reacting.
I hope it works out for you!
@wallsdonotfall I'm a shoes-on person, living in a mainly shoes-on area. If I walk into someone's house and there's a big pile of shoes by the door, sometimes I'll take my shoes off if I am wearing socks and/or I can tell that their floor is really clean. But sometimes peoples' floors aren't that clean and it's super gross. Or I'm wearing mismatched socks or something and I feel self-conscious about taking off my shoes.
I feel like if you're in a place where the norm is to not remove shoes, and you want to REQUIRE people to remove shoes, you should offer socks or slippers. If it's just a suggestion, then no need and just make sure people aren't actively tracking in mud (which hopefully they're not doing without needing to be told). And if you're in a place where it's the norm for everyone to take off the shoes, then your guests are expecting to and no special accommodations are necessary.
@cuminafterall BRING A BOOK. I've been called in three or four times and have never actually made it past the waiting room.