Posts Tagged: pregnancy
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Pregnancy, Week by Week

4 WEEKS:

The father is on his way over. His best friend (who I’ve also been sleeping with) is already at my place. I want to learn shibari; he’s going to show me some basic knots. I text the father. He’s bringing wine. Can you also pick me up a pregnancy test?

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I don’t sleep that night. I do some drunk-Googling.

Vancouver abortion clinic lsd and pregnancy walk-in clinic

At 6 AM, I take the test. It’s not my first rodeo; I know that early morning is the best time to take a pregnancy test; your pee is full of hormones. The second line appears almost instantly, [...]

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"You’re not supposed to be mine. You were not supposed to be made."

The New York Times has a piece today on the range of mental illnesses surrounding pregnancy that can no longer quite be summed up as post-partum depression, and a few women share stories that must have been frightening to speak about, both then and now:

When Benjamin was born, six weeks premature, Ms. Guillermo recalled thinking, “You’re not supposed to be mine. You were not supposed to be made.”

She had loved breast-feeding Christopher, but pumped milk for Benjamin. “I could not stand to have him at my chest,” she said. “I was like a robot. I changed him, I fed him, I burped him. Because I never [...]

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"The average person's marketing data is worth 10 cents; a pregnant woman's data skyrockets to $1.50"

The bots are extra thirsty for that Pregnancy Data, and if you want to hide from them, you're probably gonna have to use Tor. [Mashable]

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Interview With a Pregnant Porn Star

Fresh-faced and dressed in a white tunic and leggings, Kayden Kross sits at her dining room table in the San Fernando Valley with the California sunlight pouring in through the doors behind her. She runs her fingers through her long blonde hair and occasionally places a hand on her belly: at 28 years old, she’s expecting her first child* with her fiancé, Manuel Ferrara.

But Kross has an unconventional background leading up to motherhood—the Sacramento native is one of porn’s biggest stars. With a resume that includes leads in movies like Body Heat and Tyler’s Wood (a spoof on Tiger Woods’ many transgressions, starring Kross as Elin Nordegren), she’s won awards [...]

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The EEOC Updates Rules Against Pregnancy Discrimination for the First Time in 30 Years

The agency clarified several policies, including one that spells out when businesses may have to provide pregnant workers light duty and another that bans employers from forcing a pregnant worker to take leave even in cases when she's able to continue on the job.

The policy also clarifies that lactation is a pregnancy-related medical condition and so has all the protections of the law, including requirements for schedule flexibility and a private place to express milk.

On the subject of caregivers, the EEOC stated that employers who allow parental leave must provide it to men and women equally.

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Pregnancy Slightly Contagious

The likelihood of a woman having a child increases after a high school friend gives birth, reaches a peak approximately two years later, and then decreases.

-Here's the study, which is clear about its own limited scope (1,700+ women and their high school social network), and here's the study's blurb. No correlation on unintended pregnancies, though!

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Can You Charge a Woman With Murder for a Stillbirth?

ProPublica has a fascinating, sad, complicated story up about a young woman named Rennie Gibbs, who was 16 in 2007, when she delivered a stillborn infant one month premature:

To experts who later examined the medical record, the stillborn infant’s most likely cause of death was also the most obvious: the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck. But within days of Samiya’s delivery in November 2006, Steven Hayne, Mississippi’s de facto medical examiner at the time, came to a different conclusion. Autopsy tests had turned up traces of a cocaine byproduct in Samiya’s blood, and Hayne declared her death a homicide, caused by “cocaine toxicity.”

There are too many pieces [...]

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How to Have a Miscarriage

You’re going to need some Gatorade. For the fluids, electrolytes, sugars. Or instant chicken broth, if you can get someone to make you a cup, because you’re going to be there for… Wait. Back up.

Start over.

You’re 40 years old, and this is your second marriage. You’ve waited until you’re ready. Waited so many times, really. Until you got remarried. Until your husband got back from the deployment, got through graduate school. Bought your house that you will never move from, because you hate moving and refuse to do it again. There’s room in it, even if your kids (two boys from your first marriage, one girl from his) [...]

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"I have decided to override her refusal to have a C-section"

A woman named Rinat Dray is suing her doctors and Staten Island University Hospital after being forced into a C-section:

The hospital record leaves little question that the operation was conducted against her will: “I have decided to override her refusal to have a C-section,” a handwritten note signed by Dr. James J. Ducey, the director of maternal and fetal medicine, says.

Her bladder was cut during the surgery, and her doctor ("he told her that she would be committing the equivalent of child abuse and that her baby would be taken away from her") sounds like a real horror:

At first, she said, [...]

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"Hadn’t Cain Killed Abel for Less?"

Connie became pregnant, but my belly did not grow of child but of wild. And where her baby attached to her and sucked the life source, dormant things grew in me that only fed to feed again. And where her skin smoothed with life, mine grew sallow of contempt. And where she could no longer bring her knees or forehead to the floor in prayer, I made rakat after rakat in empty servitude—bargaining, reasoning, demanding. The single prayer I said was the baby prayer, the fastening prayer, the mooring prayer, the prayer that said I deserved more than what was received.

It reads like a smack-you-in-the-face-beautiful prose [...]