Posts Tagged: polyamory

On Pheasants and Polyamory

I found the pheasants accidentally. I’d gone looking for the avenue of shoes on Brush Street, a new art installation in Detroit, and got a bit lost. When I stopped to orient myself, I saw a single pheasant through a thicket of tall grass in a vacant lot next to a sagging two-story. The house had an old Ford F150 parked in front. I saw an empty kiddie pool, a plastic circle in turquoise with green fish printed on the bottom. I heard soft crowing, and walked stealthily towards the sound

As I approached, I saw more pheasants through the tall grass. I wanted to make out details, but the [...]


Polygraphy, Polyestery, and Polyamory

Its invention is largely credited to William Moulton Marston, an American psychologist who in 1915 began to demonstrate a lie detection test, which determined whether the subject was being deceptive using a blood pressure cuff, or sphygmomanometer, to take measurements of systolic blood pressure during interrogation.

(He also created the comic book character Wonder Woman under the alias Charles Moulton. Wonder Woman was known for her Lasso of Truth that compelled people to tell the truth when wrapped in its coil — clearly, Moulton had serious trust issues. Maybe it had something to do with his polyamorous lifestyle: he and his wife lived with a third woman, Olive Byrne, for [...]


Befriending Your Best Friend's Girlfriend and Resisting the "One True Sex Act"

I'm polyamorous, and live with my partner, and have a long distance relationship with someone I love dearly. I've been with my partner for almost three years, and we are in a very solid, happy place. My long-distance sweetie and I have had an intense Thing happening since this past April—so about five months, all of it online (we lived in the same town years ago, but have lived in different parts of the country for the last few years.)

Until this week, my sweetie had a primary relationship of their own. The breakup is, well, a breakup—messy, drama-ful, and rife with the mind-boggling emotional calculus of "had I only brought in [...]


Polyamory, Hair-Pulling, and Responding to Compliments

What is the appropriate response to "you're so pretty" etc., usually said in the context of making out? "Thank you" seems lame. "So are you" sounds weird because dudes aren't "pretty." No response also seems weird. I guess my broader question is how do you accept a compliment about your looks, right? (See also: "you're so hot," "you're so sexy," etc.)

I actually don’t think “thank you” is lame. Most likely he’s not fishing for a compliment. He’s complimenting you in the hope that you’ll make out with him/continue making out with him/make out with him more in the future. Saying thank you and doing any or all of [...]


Mixing Greek and Latin Roots Is Wrong

Venerable leftist online periodical Alas! A Blog (it's been around for ten years, which makes it practically the Bank of England) has a piece about how same-sex marriage is very, very different from poly marriage, which does not necessarily work as a polemic. That's a fabulous t-shirt, though.