What's the payoff to avoiding monogamy?
A NON-MONOGAMOUS LADY: Why don't we start by casting our minds far, far back to the world of monogamy?
A NON-MONOGAMOUS DUDE: Time travel!
ANMD: Wavy lines!
ANML: Why didn’t monogamy work for you?
ANMD: I liked monogamy! In retrospect, it’s comforting in that it is possible to not discuss a lot of complicated feelings about your relationship, and you can enjoy a comfortable, loving union whilst minimizing territorialness and jealousy.
ANML: "Comfortable" being the operative word.
ANMD: Yes. It's comfortable. Unfortunately, in my experience, comfortableness often becomes complacency. And as the relationship persists, it becomes unhappier by barely perceptible [...]
OK, so I am engaged. And to the best, most incredible man I've ever met. He's strong, sexy, sweet, considerate, hilarious, everything a girl could ask for — not to mention that sex with him is OUT OF THIS WORLD INSANELY AMAZING. We are ridiculously in love, hence the engagement. I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him.
Here's the kicker: I like girls. I have never had a sexual experience with a girl other than drunken making-out, but sexy, beautiful women do turn me on. I have a deep-rooted fantasy of having sex with a girl. It's just something about my sexuality that [...]