Today in news clippings that will confuse your grandma:
More than a third of recent marriages in the USA started online, according to a study out Monday that presents more evidence of just how much technology has taken hold of our lives.
The research, based on a survey of more than 19,000 individuals who married between 2005 and 2012, also found relationships that began online are slightly happier and less likely to split than those that started offline.
*Makes online dating profile.* *Immediately deletes it.* *Makes online dating profile.* *Immediately deletes it.* Lather, rinse, repeat.
"… by the time they turn 30, about two-thirds of American women have had a baby, typically out of wedlock. Overall, 48 percent of first births are to unmarried women, most of them in their twenties. … Twentysomethings who are unmarried, especially singles, are significantly more likely to drink to excess, to be depressed, and to report lower levels of satisfaction with their lives, compared to married twentysomethings."
There's a neat new study out, lots of colorful charts and such.
Single? Married? Divorced? None/all? This "why do people marry?" opinion piece is interesting, if you're interested in that kind of thing.
Also is that little girl wearing pajamas to her parents' wedding?
Previously, possibly related: "if instead of giant parties with pretty dresses and champagne, weddings were brief, solo walks through a gutter followed by an exchange of mud clumps, there might not be so much divorce. Maybe? I don't know."
And if you really want to go all in this morning, the Times is also running an article on the state of the pelvic exam.
When Kelly Makino was a little girl, she loved to go orienteering — to explore the wilderness near her rural Pennsylvania home, finding her way back with a compass and a map — and the future she imagined for herself was equally adventuresome. Until she was about 16, she wanted to be a CIA operative, a spy, she says, "like La Femme Nikita." She put herself through college at Georgia State working in bars and slinging burgers, planning that with her degree in social work, she would—
But guess what? Hm, hard to say.
The latest New York magazine cover story, if you're interested, is "The Retro Wife."
So, let’s talk about your mom! What was her story growing up?
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How did your parents get together?
She met my dad in college—he’s nine years older than she is—and they got married a few years after that. She was the one to propose, which is [...]
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