Posts Tagged: lindsay miller

Spectrums and Attractiveness

1. I’m writing because, well, I’m not sure who I am anymore. I thought I had it figured out, going through college and a few years after as a straight dude, but more and more I find myself falling asleep hoping I wake up a straight chick.

Which is weird, because I’m not dissatisfied as a male. I like my body and feel comfortable with the fact that I possess a penis; often, I even enjoy this fact. I also have no interest in cross-dressing or reassignment surgery. When I hear trans people speak about their experience, it’s always a feeling of being trapped, or always having this gut [...]


I Never Meta-Horror I Didn't Like

Why do I love horror movies so much? Partly, of course, it is because I am emotionally unwell: I really enjoy being afraid. I have spent most of my life searching for the Perfect Scare, the Holy Grail of nightmares, that ineffable something that will truly, deeply, life-ruiningly terrify me. (And no, you guys, it is not The Exorcist. People need to stop suggesting The Exorcist. It's a perfectly good movie, but it didn't scare me when I was thirteen and it doesn't scare me now.)

But beyond the adrenaline-on-crack thrill of a really good scare, one of the things I love about horror is that it's so darn [...]


Filed Nails, When to Move, and the Coded Mixtape

So, Queer Chick, I come to you as a supplicant. I'm a trans guy who's looking to start dating following a cross-country move to begin grad school. This is all good, except for a few complicating factors. A) I'm pretty much 100% out by choice. Googling my name outs me as trans within the first page. I’d like to think anyone I’m involved with would be down with that, but I recognize this could scare off possible partners. B) Ever since I came out five-ish years ago, I've basically been 100% inactive on the dating front for various reasons. That puts me in my mid-twenties with almost no adult [...]


Future In-Laws, Appealing Coworkers, and Lesbians With Interests (?!)

Ima try to keep this snappy. I'm queer. I'm in an open marriage. I live in Utah. I'm only a year into this, so I have wobbly newborn queer legs and I suck at coming out, especially when it comes to the open relationship bit.

SO, there's this girl I work with … we drunkenly confessed crushes on each other one night … my confession in all seriousness and hers potentially in a I'm-totally-straight-but-I-like-your-hair kind of way. I don't know. I would really like to bring it up again and find out more. Is it worth it to possibly ruin a nice work relationship with her and jeopardize my [...]


Long Distances, "Terribleness," and the Skin-Crawly Feeling

1. So, I have an emotionally confusing situation I'm hoping you'll be kind enough to help me with.

I'm dating this girl, we've been together for almost a year, and are currently doing long distance, as she's still in high school and I just started college. College has been a bit tough for me, in terms of making friends, but about a month ago I met this girl at a show and we've been hanging out together on the weekends a lot since then. I find her really attractive, but never planned to do anything because I love my girlfriend and am happy with her. However, I have also [...]


Rejection, Bigotry, and Vanilla With Sprinkles

1. I know this is going to sound pathetic and ridiculous, but that's exactly why I can't talk to my friends about it, so I was hoping you could help somehow. I was having a sort of long-distancey thing with this girl — we saw each other only a couple of times in person, but through calls, emails, and text we developed a pretty intense emotional connection and spent a lot of time talking about how hot we were for each other and describing in graphic detail the things we'd like to do to each other if we only had a chance. Then when we finally did meet up [...]


The Day You Get Your MFA in Poetry

Today, you get your MFA in poetry. Today all your hard work and determination and binge-drinking and late nights crying over the thesaurus have finally paid off. Today the world is your seafood dish of choice.

Today your parents will call you long-distance to tell you congratulations, and that you've always been their favorite child. “An MFA in poetry — we couldn't be prouder,” they'll say. “It's too bad your brother didn't follow your example, instead of frittering away his time in medical school.”

Today, the girl who picked on you in junior high will send you a message on Facebook. “hey just saw u got ur mfa in [...]


Secondary Relationships, Tequila Fumes, and the Lesbian Internet

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2. Hello Queer Chick, hope you’re well. I’m a bisexual girl who’s been in a relationship with an awesome guy for almost a year and a half now. He’s my first boyfriend, and the sum of my sexual experience has been with him. He knows and is comfortable with my sexuality, and would welcome the opportunity for me to have sexual encounters with women – so long as he’s in the room at the time. And I’d welcome it too; I’ve never been with a girl, and now that I feel I’ve got a handle on hetero-sex, I’m more interested in women than ever. 

I guess the [...]


Racist Girlfriends, Plush Closets, and Sufficient Queerness

I took a decade-plus long break from dating/relationships etc. to figure me out, and all that junk. After finally reconciling all my spiritual/sexual/familial-type issues, I feel confident in who I am and am ready to date. So, I started seeing this one chick who was pretty awesome. We get along really well and I really like her. We've been seeing each other for a few months, but she's not comfortable putting any kind of label on our "relationship" and she frequently refers to it as "hanging out" (for the record, when I "hang out" with my friends, I DO NOT do the things that I do with her). But [...]


Late Starts and the Umfriend

1. So, I've pretty much known that I've liked chicks from the time I was 13 on. However, because my spirituality conflicted with my sexuality, I never really acted on it. I went on a few dates with chicks in my late teens, got kicked out of my house for that and then stopped dating entirely. Here I am 32 years old now. I went through therapy hoping to "fix" my sexuality. It didn't work. I went through a "de-gayification" program (for lack of a better phrase) that I ended up quitting because I felt like scum every "class." I then did my own research on the Bible and [...]