Rebecca is a 24-year-old web designer who lives in New York City.
So, let’s talk about your mom! What was her story growing up?
She was born in 1960 and she grew up in a Catholic family in New York, not super religious but culturally so. She told me that she thought maybe she was bisexual, and she also definitely wanted a family, and at that point the way to have a family was to get married to a man. So that’s what she did.
How did your parents get together?
She met my dad in college—he’s nine years older than she is—and they got married a few years after that. She was the one to propose, which is [...]
Layne is a graduate student at the University of Michigan. She was adopted from South Korea as a baby.
So, what do you know about your birth parents?
Not much! I know she was 17, he was 19, and they weren’t married. I think my biological father had just joined the military service, and it was sort of a fork in the road—either they could get married and raise the child, or he could stay in the service, but not both.
How old were you when you were adopted?
I was born in September 1985, and I got to America on January 15, 1986.
Did your adoptive parents fly [...]
Alli is a 26-year-old woman who lives in New York. When she was 11 days old, she was adopted through a closed process, and she grew up in the suburbs of Chicago.
Do you remember finding out that you were adopted?
I don’t, really! I feel like it’s always been part of my consciousness. When do you start being conscious of things — maybe age 3, age 5? They must have told me when I was really young. My mom bought me these books for children about what it means to be adopted. She’d tell me I didn’t grow in her womb, I grew in her heart.
What is your [...]