I recently started a new job (lol hi everyone), and with that came the inevitable question: what are you going to wear on your first day? That's not even close to the most pressing matter at hand—the dress I picked out seemed too stuffy, the blazer and jeans combo I wore felt a little on the casual side, and who cares, I got my period and bled everywhere anyway. What the people should really be asking is, "How are you going to pump yourself up? How will you ensure that you're going to walk in with your head held high? What song are you going to listen to?"
One Big Question is my baby. I'd been kicking around the idea since before I started at the Hairpin, and it was one of the first columns Haley and I created when we got here. It comes from my habit— not sure if good or bad, really— of getting stuck on one big question, whatever enters my brain and refuses to budge, and posing it to everyone I know. It masquerades as a desire to learn more about the insides of people's brains— which I genuinely want to do, please everyone give me your brains— but it's also been a clever way to take my fears and sneak [...]
Starting the Women of Our Year series up again made me think: why are we so reluctant to celebrate ourselves? We talked about impostor syndrome last month, and pretty much came up with the answer— people, especially women, are taught to downplay their accomplishments, to be self-deprecating and modest, to eschew any sort of praise. Well, that's bullshit, so this month we're doing the opposite. I asked a group of women: how are you the woman of your year? It was deeply inspired by Haley, as everything good in this world is, so I'll let her explain it more.
I went to the Bullish [...]
Start consuming art. Consume everything you can. It doesn’t matter if it’s good or bad, that’s all subjective anyway. Visit museums. Look at every painting, every artifact. Don’t go anywhere without new music on your iPhone or in your car. Get a Netflix subscription. Buy the Criterion Collection. Go to the ballet and cry.
Start to have opinions. Tell everyone you’re preferring J. Cole’s new work and that Yeezus left you wanting. Discover that there is actually "lesser work" of the Beatles, and that you like it more than the White Album. Don’t be ashamed of liking Salvador Dali, even though lots of people seem to think that’s pedestrian. Get [...]